BJJ Mental Models Ep. 373: Finding Your Worth, feat. Erin Herle
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Jan 19, 2026 In this engaging conversation, Erin Herle, a certified mental performance consultant and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu black belt under Rubens 'Cobrinha' Charles, tackles the concept of self-worth in the sport. She emphasizes the pitfalls of performance-based self-worth linked to belts and rankings. Erin discusses the importance of establishing core values and the dangers of tying identity solely to outcomes. Listeners will also learn practical strategies for cultivating a healthier athletic identity and fostering psychological safety within coaching environments.
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Self-Worth Tied To Unstable Outcomes
- Performance-based self-worth ties identity to unstable external outcomes like belts, wins, and followers.
- Erin Herle says this makes self-worth unreliable because many variables in matches are uncontrollable.
Separate Identity From Roles And Outcomes
- Define core values and separate stable personal identity from contextual roles in the gym or competition.
- Erin Herle advises focus on controllable intentions and task-focused effort instead of outcomes.
Treat Competition As A Task, Not A Trial
- Avoid making tournaments a character trial by stacking your worth on the result.
- Treat wins as byproducts of focused task performance and train to manage arousal and attention.