Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns — and How Attachment Styles Actually Change (with Thais Gibson)
Jan 9, 2026
Join Thais Gibson, a leading attachment theory expert and founder of The Personal Development School, as she dives into the complexities of relationship patterns. She reveals how core wounds and attachment styles contribute to recurring conflicts, often masked by surface issues. Thais offers practical tools for rewiring these patterns, emphasizing the importance of emotional safety and nervous system regulation. Discover the transformative power of understanding your subconscious and how intentional practice can lead to deeper connections.
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Early Trauma, Addiction, And The Subconscious
- Thais Gibson described growing up in a chaotic home, developing fearful-avoidant patterns, and becoming addicted to opioids after a knee surgery.
- Learning that the conscious mind cannot outwill the subconscious sparked her obsession with rewiring the subconscious and led to her recovery and later work.
Attachment Profiles Fast-Track Healing
- Attachment style predicts common core wounds, needs, nervous system responses, and boundary patterns.
- Thais calls this integrated attachment theory which fast-tracks understanding and treatment by mapping six pillars to attachment profiles.
Surface Fights Reveal Subconscious Meaning
- Surface fights (like about laundry) reflect deeper subconscious meanings and core wounds projected onto present events.
- Partners' emotional reactions reveal those meanings, not objective facts, so understanding history creates empathy.