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Why do couples swear they’ll “do better next time” — and then fall into the exact same fights again?
In this episode, we’re joined by Thais Gibson, leading attachment theory expert and founder of The Personal Development School, to unpack why relationship change often doesn’t stick — and what actually works at the subconscious and nervous system level.
We talk about how attachment styles, core wounds, and nervous system responses quietly drive conflict, shutdown, and disconnection — even when both partners deeply care. Thais shares practical tools for rewiring attachment patterns so couples and individuals can move toward secure attachment, emotional safety, and real connection.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, triggered, or discouraged because insight alone hasn’t changed your relationship, this conversation will give you hope and concrete next steps.
In This Episode, We Cover:
- Why insight and “trying harder” don’t change relationship patterns
- How attachment wounds form — and why they repeat in adult relationships
- The difference between subconscious vs. unconscious patterns
- Why couples fight about surface issues (like laundry or tone) when the real pain runs deeper
- How anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment styles experience conflict differently
- The role of the nervous system in emotional shutdown, defensiveness, and reactivity
- A step-by-step tool for rewiring core attachment wounds using memory, imagery, and emotion
- Why affirmations often fail — and what works instead
- How partners unknowingly validate each other’s deepest fears
- What secure attachment actually looks like in real relationships (not perfection)
Key Takeaways:
- You’re not broken — your nervous system learned patterns to survive
- Most relationship conflict is driven by subconscious meaning, not the present moment
- Attachment styles can be rewired, not just managed
- Emotional safety changes behavior faster than logic
- Secure attachment is a skill, not a personality trait
About Our Guest
Thais Gibson is a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and the founder of The Personal Development School, where she has helped millions of people understand and rewire their relationship patterns. Her work integrates neuroscience, attachment theory, and practical tools for lasting emotional change.
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Who This Episode Is For
- Couples who feel disconnected but still care
- Individuals stuck in repeating relationship patterns
- Anyone curious about attachment theory beyond surface-level explanations
- Partners who want real tools — not just insight
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