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One of the key challenges in our twenties is navigating relationships, be it romantic or friendships. To maintain strong friendships, it is important to take initiative and make consistent plans to spend quality time with friends. Creating a regular schedule for socializing, such as a Sunday dinner or a Saturday brunch club, can help ensure regular connection. Additionally, being an active listener is crucial. This involves truly engaging with others, making eye contact, and being present in the conversation. Actively listening not only strengthens relationships but also makes you more attractive as a friend.
Loneliness is a common struggle in our twenties, often linked to feeling lost and disconnected. It is essential to prioritize alone time and learn to be comfortable with solitude. Creating a habit of spending time alone each week allows for reflection, self-discovery, and proactive self-care. Whether it's journaling, enjoying solo activities, or simply sitting in silence, practicing solitude helps cultivate a strong relationship with oneself and mitigates feelings of loneliness.
A key strategy for making new friendships is consistently engaging in hobbies and activities. By participating in the same activities week after week, you are more likely to connect with like-minded individuals and build familiarity. Joining a sports team or attending group classes creates opportunities for socialization and shared interests. Taking the time to actively listen and engage with others in these settings is crucial for deepening connections and building new friendships.
Active listening is a highly valuable habit to nurture in our twenties. It involves fully engaging with others, focusing on verbal and non-verbal cues, and being present in conversations. By actively listening, asking questions, and providing constructive responses, we become more attractive as friends and create meaningful connections. Energizing responses show genuine interest, enthusiasm, and support, positively impacting our relationships and making us more enjoyable companions.
In your 20s, it's important to find a balance between work and personal life. One way to do this is by creating an ideal week schedule where you allocate time for physical exercise, mental well-being, practical tasks, social activities, and hobbies. Taking advantage of Sundays as recharge days can also help reset and prepare for the week ahead. Remember that work-life balance is unique for each person, so prioritize what aligns with your values and what brings you happiness and fulfillment.
In your 20s, it's common to question your identity and struggle with finding your true self. Instead of trying to define your true self, focus on understanding and aligning with your values. Conducting a values exercise can be helpful to identify the core pillars of your identity. Narrow down a list of values to your top five, prioritize them, and align your actions and decisions with those values. Remember that your identity and values may evolve over time, and it's okay to explore and redefine them.
Developing confidence and authenticity in your 20s involves getting comfortable with disappointing others and accepting that not everyone will like you. Focus on being true to yourself and living in alignment with your values. Authenticity is attractive and will attract like-minded individuals who will support and uplift you. Remember that your own happiness and fulfillment are more important than trying to please everyone else.
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If navigating your 20s feels like a race against time, you’re not alone. You might be anxious about whether you’re on the right path (like whether you should stick to a conventional career or go travelling), you might be struggling to find your ‘true self’ (like what your purpose and passions are), or your might be struggling to balance your relationships with your 9-5 job. Let’s face it. The period of our 20s isn’t the easiest to navigate. Today I’m joined by Jemma Sbeghen. Jemma is the podcast host of The Psychology Of Your 20s, the podcast that talks through some of the big life challenges and changes of your 20s and what they mean for our psychology. Jemma has a degree in psychology and started her podcast during the covid lockdown where she applied psychological concepts she’d learned to the common problems people face in their 20s, including everything from imposter syndrome, to break ups and existential crisis’. In its first year, the podcast catapulted to Spotify’s top 10 podcast charts in the US, UK, and Australia. In the episode we talk about this feeling of uncertainty, often known as the quarter-life crisis, how to navigate these feelings filtering into different aspects of our life, as well as talking about the habits we can develop in our 20s to help us feel more in tune and at peace with our relationships, careers and identity.
(00:00) Intro
(01:34) What is a quarter life crisis?
(06:30) The paradox of choice
(12:57) Life is a picture but you live in a pixel
(16:20) The different narratives of your 20s
(29:00) Friendships are the most important relationships in our 20s
(31:10) Loneliness and alonement
(34:55) Journalling
(37:25) How to maintain friendships
(48:50) Setting boundaries
(53:12) Stepping out of your comfort zone
(01:12:54) Habits for finding work life balance
(01:21:05) Advice on finding your identity
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