The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

148. The 80/80 Marriage: A Radical Approach to Relationship Bliss | w/ Nate And Kaley Klemp

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Oct 18, 2023
Nate and Kaley Klemp, authors of 'The 80/80 Marriage', discuss their journey from failing to thriving relationship. They challenge fairness in marriage, emphasize radical generosity, intention, appreciation, and open communication. Insights on overcoming resentment, fostering deeper connections, and redefining marriage dynamics are shared. Role-swap experiments and transforming marriage into '80/80' partnership are explored. Fairy tale to struggle, prolonged difficulty, and healthy marriage are discussed. Importance of intention, generosity, and creating fulfilling relationships highlighted.
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ANECDOTE

Early Fairy Tale Turned Crisis

  • Nate and Kaley met in high school, reunited at 24, married, and initially lived a fairy-tale start that quickly unraveled. A year into marriage Nate's bike accident led to anxiety and depression and nearly ended their relationship.
INSIGHT

Ask What's Best For The Family

  • The modern marriage tension is unique: both partners pursue individual careers while needing to share life tasks. Asking "What's best for us as a family?" shifted their decisions and bridged that polarity.
ANECDOTE

Bus Pickup Shifted Their Model

  • The bus pickup dilemma forced a concrete choice: who would meet their daughter after school. Nate reduced his job to 80% to serve the family's needs and model the 80/80 approach.
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