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The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

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Jan 22, 2025 • 26min

214. 6 Key Qualities for a Thriving Marriage

Are you a high achiever who sometimes feels stagnant or disconnected in your relationships? In this week’s episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell offers actionable guidance to create a thriving marriage that balances professional success with deep emotional connection, reigniting the passion and intimacy in your marriage and in your life.  You’ll learn about the six essential qualities for building an extraordinary marriage: curiosity, honesty, kindness, happiness, responsibility and growth, so you can build the skills needed for having a truly fulfilling relationship.  Join Dr. Alexandra as she shares personal insights and real-life success stories of couples who have embraced these principles and transformed their marriages. Whether your relationship is thriving or struggling, this episode will provide you with the tools and wisdom needed to deepen intimacy and create a marriage that fosters both personal and relational growth.   You’ll also learn: How to use open-ended questions to cultivate curiosity, leading to deeper understanding and connection with your partner What the difference is between vulnerable honesty and brutal honesty and how to use honesty to create a vibrant relationship Why taking 100% responsibility for your relationship's quality can completely transform the dynamic in your marriage  How to engage proactively with your partner The principles outlined in Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s book, Uncompromising Intimacy   Learn More About Uncompromising Intimacy: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book/   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Jan 15, 2025 • 28min

213. Love is Blind Stars Bliss and Zack Goytowski on How Vulnerability Transforms a Relationship

Bliss & Zack Goytowski, from Love Is Blind Season 4, speak about the transformative power of Love Is Blind with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell in this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast. They share how their deep emotional connection grew with vulnerability and open communication before they even saw one another.  Reflecting on their time in the pods, Bliss and Zack discuss how the unique experience of reality TV served them to foster personal growth, trust in one another, and the formation of a shared vision for their future. The conversation touches on themes of sacrifice, overcoming challenges, and the critical role of vulnerability and emotional intimacy in building a strong, lasting partnership. This episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to deepen their connection and strengthen their relationship, without the need to be on Love Is Blind to make it happen!   Also in this episode: Emotional vulnerability is easier to access when visual judgments are removed, allowing for deeper connections to form. Shared vision, common goals, and doing what it takes to make them happen, are essential in maintaining a strong relationship. Honest communication about fears and desires builds trust, as exemplified by Zack's transparency with Bliss.   About the Guests:  Zack and Bliss Goytowski are a dynamic couple who met and married on Season 4 of the hit reality series Love is Blind. Their journey, which started in the pods, has been a testament to the power of emotional connection and vulnerability in relationships. Since their marriage, they’ve been navigating life together and recently welcomed their first child. In addition to their growing family, Bliss and Zack are the hosts of the podcast Blind Love, where they dive into the realities of building a relationship outside of the typical dating framework. On the show, they explore themes of love, growth, vulnerability, and the challenges of maintaining a strong partnership while in the spotlight.   Connect with them on social media: @blindlovepodcast @blisspoureetezadi @zackgoytowski   Check out their podcast  Blind Love with Zack & Bliss.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Jan 8, 2025 • 19min

212. Reignite Passion in Your Marriage

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell reveals ways to reignite passion in your marriage and maintain deep connection over the long term. It’s not only important for couples to put attention on their relationship when on the brink of divorce but also when looking to revitalize their bond and foster lasting intimacy. Dr. Alexandra challenges the belief that passion fades over time, emphasizing that, with the right tools and guidance, love can deepen and grow in every stage of a marriage. She also debunks the stereotype that women are the ones to seek out relationship coaching, sharing that men often reach out to her! Everyone benefits from learning practical skills—such as vulnerability, effective communication, and shared goals. These are the ingredients that transform a disconnected relationship into a harmonious, collaborative partnership.   Also in this episode: Both men and women actively seek relationship coaching, especially in high-performing couples where both people are motivated. Vulnerability and effective communication are crucial in transforming a disconnected relationship into a harmonious partnership.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Jan 1, 2025 • 13min

211. Strategies to Rekindle Intimacy Postpartum (that apply any time there’s been a hiatus)

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses the challenges couples face when rekindling intimacy after a prolonged sexual hiatus. She offers practical advice for reconnecting emotionally, and physically, whether postpartum or during other life circumstances that disrupt a couple’s sex life. Dr. Alexandra addresses medical conditions, parenthood, emotional barriers, and other reasons there might be prolonged sexual inactivity, providing strategies to rebuild both physical and emotional intimacy. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity, open communication, and embracing vulnerability in restoring healthy intimacy. Key strategies include approaching reconnection like a "first date" to ease awkwardness, communicating concerns without blame, and adopting a slow, mindful approach to touch, which she refers to as "sensual meditation." These insights are designed to help couples navigate the complexities of reigniting passion and intimacy after an unintended break.   Also in this episode: Rekindling Intimacy: Address the challenges of resuming sexual activity after prolonged breaks due to health or family conditions. Role Play as a First Date: Engaging in a 'first date' scenario can ease awkwardness and facilitate natural reconnection. Slow and Intentional Connection: Emphasizing slow, sensual interactions can help reignite passion and smooth out initial awkwardness.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Dec 25, 2024 • 14min

210. Reigniting Passion: How to Transform a Sexless Marriage and Rebuild Emotional Intimacy

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses the challenges of a sexless marriage and explores how emotional intimacy is key to reigniting passion. Dr. Alexandra emphasizes that emotional intimacy forms the foundation for a fulfilling relationship and shares actionable strategies, including exercises designed to restore both sexual and emotional intimacy. She highlights the importance of nurturing emotional bonds to overcome physical and emotional barriers, advocating for a proactive approach to reignite passion and rejuvenate long-term relationships. With a focus on emotional intimacy, sexless marriage, and relationship rejuvenation, Dr. Alexandra shows couples how to break through intimacy inhibitors and create a deeper, more passionate connection.   Also in this episode: Emotional intimacy is the bedrock of a fulfilling marriage, enabling partners to be genuinely seen and cherished. The key to overcoming a sexless marriage lies in mutual intention and deliberate efforts toward reconnection. Structured exercises, such as setting a timer for intimate interaction, can gradually rebuild sexual connections. Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Dec 18, 2024 • 26min

209. Overcome Intimacy Blockers: Letting go of Resistance to Embrace Passion, with Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian

Many couples deal with a variety of intimacy blockers, resulting in diminished intimacy and erosion of passion. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, host Alexandra Stockwell MD, delves into this topic with guests Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clark. The discussion covers key aspects of intimate relationships including attachment styles, boundaries, and ways to sustain meaningful connection. They offer actionable strategies to overcome barriers like emotional discomfort, attachment challenges, and misperceptions of failure. Drawing from personal experiences and professional expertise, they unpack the psychology of sexual dynamics, explore how to shift from feeling pressure to enjoying connection, and share practical techniques to nurture lasting passion and fulfillment in long-term relationships.   Also in this episode: Intimate relationships serve as potent avenues for personal growth, providing unique opportunities for self-discovery and development. Managing pressure in sexual encounters involves recognizing and naming feelings, allowing partners to alleviate stress and foster genuine connection. Understanding distinct attachment styles and boundaries significantly contributes to a relationship's health and longevity.   About the Guests: Dr. Alison Ash, known as Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator, and author, as well as a Stanford University Lecturer. With a PhD in Sociology from Stanford, Dr. Aly has deep expertise in the societal challenges that contribute to disempowering and unsatisfying intimate experiences. She is the founder of TurnON.love, a platform dedicated to empowering individuals and couples through intimacy coaching and education. Dr. Aly brings extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, the Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and the Somatica Method to help her clients navigate complex emotional landscapes. Sebastian is a skilled sex and intimacy coach and educator with nearly two decades of experience. Trained by The Sexual Health Alliance, Seb specializes in helping individuals, particularly those who are neurodiverse, express their needs and cultivate healthy relationships. His work centers on trauma-informed approaches to communication, intimacy, and nervous system regulation. Together, Dr. Aly and Seb empower people to create fulfilling and authentic intimate experiences with compassion and understanding. Check out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course at www.TurnON.love/intimacy. Use the discount code "intimatemarriage" for $75 off! For her Sustainable Intimacy course visit www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy. For on-demand workshops visit www.TurnON.love/workshops Finally for intimacy coaching, visit www.TurnON.love/coaching     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Dec 11, 2024 • 15min

208. How High-Achieving Couples CAN Have It All

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell MD talks about the unique challenges high-achieving couples face when it comes to relating intimately. She shares the story of “Shauna” and “Eric,” two successful physicians who struggle to connect with one another when it comes to intimacy, despite having aligned values and compatibility in other areas. While telling their story Dr. Alexandra highlights the unique challenges high-achieving couples face when balancing career and relationship fulfillment–in the process offering solutions anyone can implement.   Also in this episode: High-achieving couples give themselves to their careers and often require intentional focus to maintain emotional and sexual intimacy. Successful marriages require both partners to prioritize elite communication and emotional depth. Going far beyond traditional gender roles involves both partners stepping up and contributing to relational responsibility   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Dec 4, 2024 • 36min

207. From Strife to Strength, with Meygan and Casey Caston of Marriage365

Practical insights for cultivating strong, intimate relationships is the focus for this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Alexandra Stockwell, MD, and Meygan and Casey Caston, founders of Marriage365. The Castons share their remarkable journey from the brink of divorce to becoming relatable, trusted authorities in marital communication. Driven by their own search for healthier relationship tools, they discuss the origins of Marriage365, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and effective communication as cornerstones of a successful marriage. Along the way, they provide actionable strategies for navigating challenges like dealing with in-laws and setting personalized boundaries. Highlighting the value of tailoring boundaries to each couple's needs, they offer tips such as developing unique "code words" and guidelines for sharing personal matters--it’s a must-listen for couples wanting to deepen their connection.   Also in this episode: For effective conflict resolution, learn how to pause difficult conversations while they are still productive, and revisit them later. Utilize "code words" or pre-planned signals with your partner to navigate uncomfortable social situations or family gatherings. Establish clear boundaries around what personal information is shared with family members.   Learn how to navigate these differences, foster connection, and create a thriving, intimate relationship without sacrificing your individuality.  Listen now for actionable insights and transformative advice: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/102-when-your-partner-isnt-into-personal-growth-the-intimate-marriage-podcast/   About the Guests: Just three years into their marriage, the founders of Marriage365 Casey & Meygan Caston found themselves at rock bottom—voted the couple least likely to succeed and on the brink of divorce. With no affordable or accessible resources to guide them, they struggled through trial and error to rebuild their connection and restore their relationship. That journey became the inspiration for Marriage365, a platform designed to help couples around the world reconnect and thrive. Today, their app and website provide practical tools, advice, and inspiration to millions, creating a safe, accessible space for personal and relational growth. Their mission is to ensure that everyone, regardless of money or privilege, has access to the resources they need to build healthier relationships. Learn more at www.marriage365.com or follow them on Instagram @marriage365   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Nov 27, 2024 • 17min

206. Tapping into your Orgasmic Potential (Q & A)

Answering audience questions, in this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, talks about ways to experience more satisfaction in bed, tapping into your orgasmic potential, while accessing passion and nurturing intimacy in your relationship. She responds to questions from women struggling with their sexuality who want to improve their orgasmic experiences. She offers personalized strategies to embrace body awareness, cultivate erotic flow, and enhance satisfaction through mindfulness and presence. Whether you resonate with the questions or not, the answers are sure to be beneficial as Dr. Alexandra describes intentional practices that bring renewed joy, energy, and fulfillment to any intimate relationship.   Also in this episode: Techniques such as mindfulness and 'edging' aids in achieving richer sexual experiences. Open communication and playfulness are key components for maintaining a deep connection in marriage. Being present in the moment enhances erotic experiences and leads to more fulfilling orgasms.     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact
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Nov 20, 2024 • 20min

205. How to Sustain a Healthy Relationship

Healthy relationships involve a transition from codependence to interdependence. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the foundations of healthy relationships and what it takes to create them. She starts by addressing the (very common) situation where one partner's emotions heavily influence the other's well-being. Throughout the episode, Dr. Alexandra outlines how independence, codependence, and interdependence shape relationship dynamics, while emphasizing the importance of establishing boundaries that respect each partner's personal autonomy, while also nurturing a collaborative, passionate connection. Delving into the art of boundary-setting, she highlights the critical role of self-awareness and personal responsibility in fostering lasting, fulfilling partnerships.    Also in this episode: Setting and maintaining boundaries is crucial for transitioning from codependence to interdependence. Effective communication about personal desires and boundaries significantly enhances relationship satisfaction. Understanding one's own desires and taking responsibility for their fulfillment is essential in a healthy partnership.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

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