The Genius Life 523: The Hidden Relationship Killer No One Warns You About | Tracy Dalgleish, PhD
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Nov 5, 2025 Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a clinical psychologist and couples therapist with nearly 20 years of experience. In this discussion, she sheds light on the hidden dynamics that can strain relationships, particularly conflicts with in-laws. Tracy introduces her VAULT method for establishing healthy boundaries and explains how childhood patterns affect adult interactions. She emphasizes the importance of emotional communication and productive pauses during conflicts, unraveling how enmeshment and unmet needs can lead to deeper issues in couples. Tune in for insightful strategies to foster connection!
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In-Law Conflict Is A Major Relationship Driver
- In-law conflict is a major hidden driver of couple distress and divorce.
- Tracy Dalgleish reports over 86% of couples argue about a mother-in-law at some point.
Closeness Can Mask Unhealthy Dynamics
- Proximity to in-laws can predict relationship strain; closeness doesn't equal healthy connection.
- Men and their mothers show higher conflict rates due to developmental and socialization differences.
Childhood Socialization Shapes Boundary Skills
- Girls typically develop emotional attunement earlier than boys, shaping different boundary skills.
- Men often become avoidant or compartmentalize feelings, making boundary-setting harder later in life.
