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It’s Not Just You: The Myth of Limitless Resilience with Dr. Tasha Eurich

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Sep 16, 2025

Join Dr. Tasha Eurich, an organizational psychologist and best-selling author, as she unpacks the limitations of resilience in our chaotic world. She reveals the concept of a 'resilience ceiling' and discusses why even high achievers can struggle when their coping strategies fail. Learn practical tools to boost self-awareness, such as the 2-2-2 technique for managing overwhelm and how to balance life beyond just work. Dr. Eurich emphasizes the importance of acknowledging struggles as part of growth, offering insights into essential emotional needs for better relationships.

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INSIGHT

Resilience Has A Ceiling

Resilience is a limited resource that can hit a ceiling under chronic, compounding stress.
Even high achievers inevitably reach a resilience ceiling because the world is becoming more complex.

INSIGHT

Resilience Restores, It Doesn't Grow

Resilience typically restores people to baseline rather than producing growth or transformation.
Most research defines resilience as bouncing back or absence of depression/anxiety, not thriving.

ANECDOTE

Colleague's Surprise Fueled Shame

Tasha shared a moment when a colleague expressed surprise she wasn't okay, which intensified her shame.
This illustrated the social pressure that fuels 'grit gaslighting' when people expect constant endurance.

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Have you ever felt like your resilience is being pushed to its limits, especially in the chaotic and complex world we live in today? Dr. Alexandra sits down with organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Tasha Eurich to delve into the insights from her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (and Why Resilience Alone Isn’t Enough). In this conversation, they discuss the myths of resilience, as well as what a “resilience ceiling” is and how to identify when we’ve hit it. Most importantly, they talk about how to understand the limits of resilience so that we don’t, as Dr. Tasha would call it, “grit gaslight” ourselves when our usual coping strategies don’t work the way they used to.

You'll come away from this episode with:

A clearer understanding of the limitations of resilience and how to identify when you’ve reached your 'resilience ceiling’.
A renewed perspective on the importance of acknowledging struggles as part of personal growth and healing (stoicism isn't the answer here!).
Practical strategies and tools to enhance your self-awareness and well-being, such as Dr. Tasha’s self-assessment for determining how much of our self-definition is about our work and ambition, and her 2-2-2 tool for managing overwhelm.
Insights into the essential emotional needs that foster deeper connections in your relationships.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Resilience Ceiling Quiz

https://resilience-quiz.com/

Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (And Why Resilience Alone Isn't Enough) by Tasha Eurich

https://bookshop.org/p/books/shatterproof-how-to-thrive-in-a-world-of-constant-chaos-and-why-resilience-alone-isn-t-enough-tasha-eurich/9f0e6a8876113ed0

Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

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