Mindful Self-Discipline in a World of Distractions with Giovanni Dienstmann • 253
Oct 11, 2022
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Giovanni Dienstmann, mindfulness expert, discusses mindful self-discipline. Topics include the limitations of habits alone, being goal-oriented and process-oriented, and the three pillars of mindful self-discipline. They also explore the importance of self-discipline in living in alignment with goals and values, the connection between self-discipline and spirituality, and the significance of understanding the deeper why behind goals. Additionally, they discuss living in the present moment, the difference between 'have to goals' and 'want to goals,' and the importance of self-belief and sacrifice in achieving self-discipline.
Self-discipline requires awareness, willpower, and a deeper connection to your why.
Mindful self-discipline emphasizes the combination of awareness and willpower and promotes self-compassion.
Achieving self-discipline involves finding a balance between being both goal-oriented and process-oriented.
Deep dives
Developing Mindful Self-Discipline
Developing self-discipline goes beyond building habits. It's about living in alignment with your values and aspirations. Self-discipline allows you to make choices that support your long-term goals, even when faced with impulsive or distracting temptations. While habits can be useful, not everything can be turned into a habit. Self-discipline requires awareness, willpower, and a deeper connection to your why. The mindset of self-discipline involves self-belief, full ownership of your actions and outcomes, and the willingness to make sacrifices. By creating an action plan and incorporating dedicated time in your daily routine, you can make progress towards your goals and cultivate self-discipline.
The Importance of Awareness and Willpower
Traditional views of self-discipline focus solely on willpower and mental toughness, which can feel like a constant battle. In contrast, mindful self-discipline emphasizes the combination of awareness and willpower. By starting with awareness and reconnecting to your aspirations and values through practices like meditation and reflection, you can align your daily actions with your long-term goals. This approach acknowledges that self-discipline is not about punishment, but rather a form of self-respect and living in alignment with your desired life. Mindful self-discipline also promotes self-compassion and refrains from shaming or blaming oneself when off track.
Balancing Goals and Process
Achieving self-discipline involves finding a balance between being both goal-oriented and process-oriented. While focusing on goals provides purpose and direction, solely fixating on the final destination can lead to discouragement and lack of motivation. On the other hand, being solely process-oriented can result in aimless actions without clear progress. Combining both approaches allows you to maintain focus on your aspirations while making progress through daily actions. This balanced mindset ensures that you are continuously aware of your goals while embracing and being present in the process of self-discipline.
The Three Pillars of Self-Discipline: Aspiration, Awareness, and Action
The podcast episode discusses the importance of self-discipline and introduces the three pillars of self-discipline: aspiration, awareness, and action. Aspiration refers to knowing your purpose, while awareness involves remembering your purpose, and action entails living your purpose and making decisions that align with it. The speaker emphasizes the significance of understanding the deeper values and motivations behind our goals, illustrating this with an example of wanting to write a book. By connecting with the deeper need behind our goals, we can find clarity, motivation, and fulfillment in our self-discipline journey.
The PAW Method: Pause, Awareness, and Willpower
The PAW method, consisting of the steps pause, awareness, and willpower, is introduced as a practical approach to implementing self-discipline. The pause step encourages individuals to stop and reflect before making decisions that may impact their goals and aspirations. Awareness involves evaluating whether an action is aligned with one's values and goals, considering whether it will contribute positively or negatively. The final step, willpower, refers to the effort made to shift to a positive action aligned with one's aspirations. By practicing the PAW method, individuals can cultivate self-discipline and make choices that lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
Why you need to be goal-oriented and process-oriented.
The 3 pillars of mindful self-discipline.
We tend to choose what feels good in the moment versus what’s actually good for us.
Regardless of the surface-level reason, there’s almost always a deeper reason. And that deeper reason is usually that you haven’t yet connected the hard thing with a deeper why.
So whether you need help building a consistent morning routine, breaking bad habits, finding your life purpose, increasing motivation and willpower, achieving your goals, or just being more effective with your time, mindful self-discipline can help.
That’s what we’re talking about today.
Our guest is Giovanni Dienstmann. He is a self-discipline coach who has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, celebrity musicians, ambitious professionals, artists, and pro athletes to live a more focused and disciplined life. Since 2014 he has been successfully coaching people to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage.