TED Talks Daily How to ask for help -- and get a "yes" | Heidi Grant
Jun 26, 2019
In this talk, Heidi Grant, a social psychologist focused on motivation and success, tackles the challenge of asking for help. She shares four practical rules to guide us through this often-daunting task, emphasizing clear communication and specificity in our requests. Grant discusses overcoming the common fears associated with seeking assistance, highlighting personal stories and research findings. She also underscores the importance of gratitude in nurturing relationships and fostering a supportive network, making help a mutually rewarding experience.
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Lost in Williamsburg
- Heidi Grant recounts a childhood vacation where her father refused to ask for directions despite being lost.
- This exemplifies the common aversion to seeking help, even in dire situations.
Getting Comfortable Asking for Help
- To get comfortable asking for help, increase your chances of getting a "yes".
- Make the process rewarding for the helper to encourage future assistance.
The Illusion of Transparency
- People often suffer from the illusion of transparency, mistakenly believing their needs are obvious.
- Ask for help explicitly, as others may not recognize or know you want assistance.