CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT Setting Boundaries Within Immigrant Families with Sahaj Kaur Kohli
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May 14, 2024 
Sahaj Kaur Kohli, a therapist and author of 'But What Will People Say?', joins to discuss the intricate dynamics of multi-generational immigrant families. She addresses the pressures immigrant parents face, leading to rigid expectations for their children. The conversation highlights the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining healthy communication, especially in evolving gender roles. They also touch on the complexities of grandparent-grandchild relationships and the influence of technology in navigating these connections.
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Generational Cultural Clashes
- Multi-generational immigrant families often carry down rigid cultural norms that can clash with the younger generation's identity.
- These norms include strict gender roles and expectations around success that may not align with individual happiness.
Collectivism vs Individualism Conflict
- Immigrant families often balance collectivist values of familial duty with an individualistic culture, causing guilt and emotional isolation.
- Communication styles differ, making it hard to express feelings like depression or anxiety within these families.
Religion vs Therapy Clash
- Sahaj Kohli shared how her immigrant parents used religion as a coping mechanism when she struggled emotionally.
- She had to push for professional support, explaining therapy to them despite their belief that prayer was enough.
