In a captivating discussion, Kim DeYoung, a seasoned choice coach and author, shares her insights on making meaningful choices for personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of using both masculine and feminine energies in decision-making, allowing for action while also noticing synchronicities. Kim explores the transformative nature of intentional choices, how to challenge societal norms, and the art of choice mapping. With practical strategies for overcoming indecision, she encourages listeners to embrace the lessons from past choices and boldly navigate their life paths.
Conscious choice-making is essential for transforming daily routines and achieving fulfillment in various life aspects.
Navigating the emotional landscape of significant life transitions, like sending children to college, requires acknowledgment and processing of mixed feelings.
Recognizing synchronicities in decision-making can guide individuals toward meaningful choices and help uncover previously overlooked opportunities.
Deep dives
The Power of Choice
The podcast highlights the importance of making conscious choices in various aspects of life, from health to entrepreneurship. It explores how intentional decision-making can transform daily routines, allowing individuals to experience more ease and fulfillment in their lives. The speaker emphasizes that every choice carries weight and impacts the path one takes, touching upon personal anecdotes to illustrate this point. By understanding the value of each choice made, listeners are encouraged to take an active role in shaping their own destinies.
Navigating Complex Emotions
The emotional landscape surrounding choices, especially life transitions like sending children off to college, is explored in depth. The speaker discusses the mixed feelings parents often experience, from pride to sadness, when releasing their children into the world. The podcast advises that acknowledging and processing these emotions is essential for personal growth and acceptance. Participants are invited to engage in intimate discussions that help them navigate their feelings during such transitions, fostering a sense of community and support.
Exploring Synchronicity
The concept of synchronicity in decision-making is highlighted as a way to guide individuals in their choices. The speaker shares personal experiences where seemingly random encounters led to significant life changes, reinforcing the idea that choices and their outcomes can have profound interconnectedness. By paying attention to these synchronicities, individuals can discover opportunities that they may otherwise overlook. This process encourages a mindful approach to decision-making, allowing one to see patterns and connections in life events.
Empowering Others Through Choices
The discussion includes the responsibility of supporting others, particularly children, in making their own informed choices. The speaker stresses the importance of teaching young adults about decision-making, allowing them to reflect on what makes them happy and fulfilled. This shift toward guiding rather than controlling choices is essential for fostering independence and confidence. By cultivating a supportive environment, individuals can empower others to take ownership of their choices and their resulting paths.
Connecting Through Mapping
The use of mapping as a tool for making sense of choices is introduced, presenting it as a helpful method for introspection. By visually organizing thoughts and decisions, individuals can clarify their motivations and potential outcomes associated with different paths. This technique encourages the exploration of past choices, revealing how they have led to current situations and relationships. Through this reflective process, listeners are empowered to make more intentional and thoughtful decisions moving forward.
“When you make a choice with your masculine oriented foot, you walk in action and you must do that. But then with your more feminine energy foot, you notice what has begun showing up and unfolding synchronistically.”
–Kim DeYoung
Do you ever look back to see how you got where you are? What a difference one choice can make? What if you could use choice making more intentionally? I’m talking with Kim DeYoung, coach and author of The Book of Choice about making meaningful choices.
When you are making change, it starts with a choice. I always say planning is choosing in advance. You have to act on the choice, but you start with the choice itself. Kim and I differ in language, but follow similar approaches. If you’re not a planner, her words may resonate.
What unfolds when you make the choice and act? What synchronicities can you start to see? What can you learn from the choices you’ve already made? And in case you need to hear this: there's no wrong choice. There's always a lesson.
We talk about:
The magic of acting upon synchronicities, like reaching out to a person because their name came repeatedly in a week
Choosing to explore something as a juice entry point
Choosing against the grain
Mapping choices and a self-Q&A process
Different kinds of choice makers and how that can work for you or get in your way
What happens when the need to choose becomes a bottleneck in our lives
ABOUT KIM
Kim DeYoung is a seasoned choice coach, facilitator, speaker and author of The Book of Choice. With over two decades of experience coaching creative, visionary entrepreneurs, Kim has helped countless individuals make meaningful choices to bring their ideas to fruition. She’s happiest when she’s engaging in interesting conversations about meaningful choices.
At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is how change happens.
Often we feel like our actions have to be huge to match the bigness of our desires, but we have seen over and over and over again that the little things add up. By stacking up a series of Doable Changes, you will create that big change that you crave. Choose the one that really resonates with you this week and really make it part of your life.
Here are Three Doable Changes from this conversation:
CHOOSE TO EXPLORE. I love this reframe. If you know you want to change but aren’t quite sure where you are heading or feel stuck getting started, choose to explore. For example, I choose to explore eating better or I choose to explore where I go next in my work.
MAP A CHOICE. Think about a choice you made at some point in the past. Map where that choice has taken you — opportunities that came about, people you have met, doors that opened.
ACT ON SYNCHRONICITY. You know those times when you keep hearing about a person? Or you are talking about changing your food and a local class comes up that fits right in your schedule? Or when three people from different parts of your life suggest you try something? Act on that. Reach out to the person, take the class, explore the thing people suggest you try — not with expectation, but with curiosity about what will happen.
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