Reframing Self-Care: Choosing Personal Well-Being

“When you make a choice with your masculine oriented foot, you walk in action and you must do that. But then with your more feminine energy foot, you notice what has begun showing up and unfolding synchronistically.”

–Kim DeYoung

Do you ever look back to see how you got where you are? What a difference one choice can make? What if you could use choice making more intentionally? I’m talking with Kim DeYoung, coach and author of The Book of Choice  about making meaningful choices.

When you are making change, it starts with a choice. I always say planning is choosing in advance. You have to act on the choice, but you start with the choice itself. Kim and I differ in language, but follow similar approaches. If you’re not a planner, her words may resonate.

What unfolds when you make the choice and act? What synchronicities can you start to see? What can you learn from the choices you’ve already made? And in case you need to hear this: there's no wrong choice. There's always a lesson.

We talk about: 

• The magic of acting upon synchronicities, like reaching out to a person because their name came repeatedly in a week
• Choosing to explore something as a juice entry point
• Choosing against the grain
• Mapping choices and a self-Q&A process
• Different kinds of choice makers and how that can work for you or get in your way
• What happens when the need to choose becomes a bottleneck in our lives

ABOUT KIM

Kim DeYoung is a seasoned choice coach, facilitator, speaker and author of The Book of Choice. With over two decades of experience coaching creative, visionary entrepreneurs, Kim has helped countless individuals make meaningful choices to bring their ideas to fruition. She’s happiest when she’s engaging in interesting conversations about meaningful choices.

LINKS

• http://kimdeyoung.com
• Guide: 5 Questions to Ask Before Making a Meaningful Choice - http://ChoiceQuestions.com
• http://YourChoiceBook.com 
• https://www.instagram.com/kim__deyoung
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimdeyoung/
• https://www.facebook.com/choicecoachkim

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is how change happens.

Often we feel like our actions have to be huge to match the bigness of our desires, but we have seen over and over and over again that the little things add up. By stacking up a series of Doable Changes, you will create that big change that you crave. Choose the one that really resonates with you this week and really make it part of your life. 

Here are Three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• CHOOSE TO EXPLORE. I love this reframe. If you know you want to change but aren’t quite sure where you are heading or feel stuck getting started, choose to explore. For example, I choose to explore eating better or I choose to explore where I go next in my work.
• MAP A CHOICE. Think about a choice you made at some point in the past. Map where that choice has taken you — opportunities that came about, people you have met, doors that opened.
• ACT ON SYNCHRONICITY. You know those times when you keep hearing about a person? Or you are talking about changing your food and a local class comes up that fits right in your schedule? Or when three people from different parts of your life suggest you try something? Act on that. Reach out to the person, take the class, explore the thing people suggest you try — not with expectation, but with curiosity about what will happen.