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What Disorganized Attachment Really Feels Like

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Aug 21, 2025
In this conversation, Amy Moore shares her candid journey with disorganized attachment, detailing her struggles with both avoidance and anxiety. She highlights the profound impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and emphasizes the necessity of emotional safety and oxytocin bonding. Amy discusses practical steps for healing, such as fostering self-awareness and trust through open communication, especially in parenting. Her insights shed light on the complexities of navigating personal relationships while working towards a healthier connection with oneself.
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INSIGHT

Avoidance Alone, Anxiety In Love

  • Quiet disorganized attachment flips between avoidance when alone and anxiety when close to someone.
  • Amy experiences relief after breaking up but extreme worry during relationships, revealing the quiet-disorganized pattern.
INSIGHT

Silent Devotion Looks Like Indifference

  • Quiet disorganized people often love deeply yet appear distant because they shut down outwardly.
  • That silent devotion confuses children and partners who mistake emotional withdrawal for lack of care.
ADVICE

Explain And Watch A Video Together

  • Tell your daughter you're learning about your attachment and ask to watch a video together to explain it.
  • Then ask calm questions about whether she feels uncared for and share how you actually feel to repair misunderstandings.
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