"Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict" by William Ury
Apr 4, 2024
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William Ury, author of best-selling negotiation book, discusses navigating conflict with curiosity, creativity, and collaboration. He shares a tense encounter with the President of Venezuela and strategies for maintaining composure during negotiations. He also dives into diplomatic negotiations that led to the end of the longest-running war in the Americas.
Transform conflict into constructive negotiation by leaning into it with curiosity, creativity, and collaboration.
Engaging the community as the third side can provide crucial support in finding common ground and peaceful resolutions in conflicts.
Deep dives
The Power of Transforming Conflict
Conflict is seen as a natural part of life, and the key is to handle it differently by leaning into it with curiosity, creativity, and collaboration. Rather than falling into the 3-A trap of attack, avoid, and accommodate, the solution lies in transforming conflict from destructive fighting into constructive negotiation. To navigate polarized times, gaining a clear perspective, finding a way out, and seeking help are essential.
The Importance of Perspective and Self-Reflection
Reflecting on personal reactions and taking a pause before engaging in conflict can lead to better negotiation outcomes. The metaphor of going to the balcony, a place of calm and perspective, helps in understanding deeper interests and aspirations to communicate effectively. By focusing on internal responses and gaining clarity on desired outcomes, negotiations can be set up for success.
Engaging the Third Side in Conflict Resolution
In conflict scenarios, involving the community, known as the third side, can offer valuable support in finding common ground. The third side, comprising friends, family, colleagues, and neighbors, acts as a crucial influencer that can help parties calm down, communicate, and seek solutions collaboratively. In complex conflicts like civil wars, engaging the surrounding community can build a winning coalition for peaceful resolutions.