Think Act Be Podcast 250: The Fear of Being Judged in Therapy
Nov 5, 2025
In this engaging conversation, cognitive-behavioral therapist Joel Minden tackles the fear of judgment in therapy. He explores why clients often hold back, addressing common anxieties about being perceived as 'crazy' and the shame tied to personal struggles. Joel emphasizes the need for therapy to be a safe space for full honesty and normalizes the experiences of clients. He also discusses the significance of initial sessions in building trust and the importance of therapists' nonjudgmental attitudes, even when sensitive topics arise.
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Struggling People Aren't 'Crazy'
- People often fear therapists' judgment because they seek therapy during their toughest moments and behave atypically.
- Joel Minden and Seth Gillihan normalize struggle as common and frame disclosure as courage, not defect.
Reframe Disclosure As Courage
- If a client fears judgment, use cognitive restructuring to reframe disclosure as courage and a step toward change.
- Emphasize that openness is a strength and an opportunity for collaborative problem-solving.
We Underestimate Others' Positive Reactions
- Therapists know clients rarely tell the whole story, so expect guardedness early on.
- Seth Gillihan notes listeners often react positively to vulnerability while disclosers imagine negative judgment.
