#333: Liberating the Conversation around Sex and Pleasure with Dr. Emily Morse
Dec 25, 2023
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Dr. Emily Morse, doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning podcast 'Sex With Emily', discusses the importance of removing shame around sex, addressing trauma, and focusing on sexual health. They explore topics such as communication, the impact of porn on sexual education, improving intimacy in long-term relationships, embodiment practices, mindset, and the moralization of sex.
Authenticity and open communication are crucial in sexuality, enabling individuals to embrace their desires and preferences without shame or judgment.
Sexual fantasies should be normalized and explored as a healthy part of one's sexuality, fostering a non-judgmental space for communication and exploration with a partner.
Practicing mindfulness and being fully present during sexual experiences can deepen connection, heighten pleasure, and improve overall satisfaction.
Deep dives
Authenticity and Communication in Sexuality
One of the main ideas discussed in the podcast is the importance of authenticity and open communication in sexuality. Emily Morse emphasizes the need for individuals to embrace their desires and preferences and to communicate them openly with their partners. She encourages listeners to speak honestly about their sexual needs and to have conversations about sex without shame or judgment. By being authentic and open, individuals can have more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences.
Exploring Sexual Fantasies
Another key point discussed in the podcast is the role of sexual fantasies in enhancing sexual experiences. Emily Morse normalizes sexual fantasies and encourages individuals to embrace them as a healthy part of their sexuality. She mentions that fantasies can range from desires that individuals want to explore in real life to purely imaginative experiences. The podcast highlights the importance of understanding and exploring one's own fantasies and communicating them with a partner in a consensual and non-judgmental manner.
Mindfulness and Connection in Sex
Mindfulness and being present in the moment during sex is emphasized as a way to enhance connection and pleasure. Emily Morse talks about the importance of embodiment practices and mindfulness in sexual experiences. By focusing on the senses and being fully present, individuals can heighten their arousal, improve their connection with their bodies, and have a more fulfilling sexual experience. The podcast suggests various mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing and sensory awareness, to help individuals be more grounded and present during sex.
Overcoming Shame and Preconceptions
The podcast addresses the prevalence of shame and preconceptions around sex and the need to overcome them. Emily Morse discusses how societal and cultural influences can create shame and misinformation around sexuality. She emphasizes the importance of challenging these narratives and embracing a positive and shame-free mindset towards sex. The podcast encourages individuals to let go of negative self-talk and limiting beliefs, and to be more accepting and appreciative of their bodies and desires.
Utilizing Tools for Sexual Exploration
The podcast suggests various tools and resources for individuals to enhance their sexual exploration. Emily Morse recommends her book 'Smart Sex' as a guide for sexual empowerment and education. She also highlights the importance of her podcast as a platform for open and honest discussions about sex. Additionally, she mentions the usefulness of tools like yes/no/maybe lists and online stores for sex-related products to help individuals discover their preferences, communicate with partners, and create a more fulfilling sex life.
Today I welcome Dr. Emily Morse to the show, doctor of human sexuality and the host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for nearly two decades. Dr. Emily Morse normalizes sex in way that rewires your brain to see sexuality through a liberating, new lens. She teaches us the importance of removing shame, addressing all the factors that affect our sexuality like our trauma and getting out of our heads during the act, and focusing on our sexual health. This is an episode you won’t want to miss!
Dr. Morse is a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and was previously a radio host and executive producer on SiriusXM. She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes, and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, and elsewhere. Her mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation, and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.
—Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily
—Book: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100
—Website: https://sexwithemily.com
Themes: Sex, Sexuality, Authenticity, Relationships, Self-Love, Sexual Health, Communication, Pleasure, Shame, Imago Theory, Psychology
0:00:00 Intro
0:04:01 Sex and Communication
0:06:09 The Impact of Porn on Sexual Education
0:08:17 Making Peace with Your Own Body
0:09:15 Discovering the Truth About Female Arousal and Pleasure
0:13:36 Tips for Couples Who Haven't Spoken About Sex in a Long Time
0:16:36 Faking Orgasms and the Desire for Emotional Safety
0:19:40 Rebuilding and Starting Fresh: Reconnecting and Prioritizing Sex Life
0:22:24 The Role of the Brain in Arousal and Desire
0:24:14 Embodiment Practice: Being Present and Mindful During Sex
0:26:02 The importance of breathing + breathing technique
0:29:40 Tools for better sex
0:32:21 The Importance of Lube
0:35:55 Impact of Swiping Culture on Sex and Dating Apps
0:39:43 Sexual Expression on Dating Profiles
0:42:31 The Power of Personal Evolution in Sexuality
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