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The podcast explores the concept of urges and how they impact our behaviors. It emphasizes that urges are a normal part of the human experience and can be related to various desires, such as the desire for belonging, relaxation, or reward. By naming and normalizing these urges, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and our motivations.
The episode discusses the significance of shifting our focus away from the harmful effects of alcohol and towards the underlying desires and emotions that drive our urge to drink. It suggests that instead of fixating on the negative aspects, such as the toxicity of alcohol, we should explore what our desire for a drink represents, such as the need for relaxation or celebration.
The podcast highlights the importance of developing skills to control our urges and responses, not only in relation to alcohol but also in other areas of our lives. It encourages acknowledging and narrating our urges without judgment, understanding the psychological drivers behind them, and finding alternative ways to fulfill our deeper desires. The focus is on empowering individuals to make conscious choices and develop a healthier relationship with their cravings and urges.
The brain is wired to prioritize immediate pleasure and rewards. This explains our natural inclinations to seek pleasure and reward in various forms, including drinking, eating, and other habits. It is important to normalize and acknowledge these desires and understand that they are part of the human experience. Rather than attempting to eliminate the urge altogether, it is more effective to develop a higher brain function to tolerate and manage these urges.
Rather than adopting an all-or-nothing approach, it is helpful to experiment with taking breaks from the desired behavior, such as drinking alcohol. Instead of committing to a lifetime of abstinence, one can focus on making decisions for shorter periods, such as today, this week, or this month. By doing so, individuals can practice using tools and techniques to manage urges and confront excuses while gaining insights into their relationship with the behavior. Learning to handle and understand the underlying emotions and thoughts associated with desires can lead to a more flexible and empowered approach to commitments.
Today on the podcast, you and I are having a deeply personal and eye-opening conversation about alcohol and your relationship to it.
Rachel Hart is a best-selling author and master coach who has helped thousands of people re-examine their relationship with alcohol, and that’s exactly what she is going to help you do today.
Rachel knows the surprising reason you (and I) crave a drink (or have the urge to shop, vape, play video games, scroll on social media, or want something sweet).
She’ll also explain that weird cycle of emotions you experience after drinking.
Did I drink too much last night? Did I do anything I regret? Should I stop drinking altogether? Should I detox this week before the wedding next weekend? How do I drink less? Maybe it’s time I stopped altogether.
You’ll learn that this agitation and conflict about alcohol are normal. The question is, how do you change it?
Rachel says it’s by examining the desires underneath the urge.
Today, Rachel will help you unpack urges and desires and teach you why boundaries go right out the window when you feel an urge.
Today you’ll learn:
Not sure if you have a problem with alcohol? Worried about someone else who does? You're not ready to quit alcohol all together, but you wish you’d not reach for the glass of wine most nights. Wonder if maybe you should stop?
Perfect. Listen in.
You can change your relationship with alcohol.
After this episode, you’ll know how.
Xo, Mel
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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