Dr. John Delony - Building A Non-Anxious Life, Presence, And Thriving Relationships

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Sep 25, 2023

Dr. John Delony, an expert in managing anxiety and creating healthy dialogue in relationships, discusses masculinity, anxiety, presence, parenting, relationships, and spirituality. Topics include the correlation between anxiety and not developing a relationship with your body, different causes of anxiety for modern men and women, the importance of male friendships, the power and importance of presence for your kids, skills for dealing with anxiety in yourself and in your partner, and the importance of a spiritual component to life.

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ANECDOTE

First Gym Defining Moment

John Delony got thrashed at his first kickboxing class but returned and kept training.
That experience gave him confidence and marked a before-and-after turning point in his life.

INSIGHT

Kinetic Play Is Biologically Wired

Rough play and physical testing are innate across animals and humans.
Society removed kinetic outlets and must create channels to redirect that energy constructively.

INSIGHT

Anxiety Is A Helpful Alarm

Civilization demands bodies operate in environments they weren't designed for.
Treat anxiety as your body's alarm rather than as evidence you're broken.

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Talking points: masculinity, anxiety, presence, parenting, relationships, spirituality

I'll let the podcast do the talking; this was a wide-ranging, thoroughly enjoyable conversation with John! This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you want digestible, knowledgeable talk around managing anxiety, creating healthy dialogue in relationships with partners and kids, and much, much more. Check the timestamps!

(00:00:00) - Intro and John’s defining moment
(00:05:52) - Why do you think men have a pull towards intense physicality?
(00:11:50) - Do you feel there’s a correlation between anxiety and not developing a relationship with your body?
(00:15:40) - John’s take on anxiety and its biggest causes
(00:20:17) - Different causes of anxiety for modern men and women
(00:29:09) - What’s killing male friendships?
(00:34:29) - The power and importance of presence for your kids
(00:44:39) - There is no health without relationships
(00:46:58) - Neuroception and how overachievement might be overrated
(00:59:45) - Skills for dealing with anxiety in yourself and in your partner
(01:16:44) - The importance of a spiritual component to life

Dr. John Delony earned his Bachelor of Arts in humanities and psychology at Lubbock Christian University and his Masters of Education in higher education administration from Texas Tech University. He went on to earn two PhDs from Texas Tech University—one in counselor education and supervision, and the other in higher education administration.

After spending over twenty years in crisis response and leading students in higher education (and finding real solutions and freedom in his own wellness journey), John knew he wanted to help as many people as possible heal from their past trauma and live whole, connected lives. He now writes, speaks and teaches on relationships, mental health, anxiety and wellness. He also hosts The Dr. John Delony Show where he answers callers’ questions about all of the above, and serves as co-host of The Ramsey Show where he helps unpack the psychology behind finances.

Connect with John

-Book (out Oct 3): Building A Non-Anxious Life: https://store.ramseysolutions.com/personal-growth/books/building-a-non-anxious-life-by-dr-john-delony/

-Website: https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3PNP4pg

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/johndelony

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