The Mel Robbins Podcast

How to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure

Nov 17, 2022

Join Dr. Marisa Franco, a New York Times bestselling author and professor, as she dives deep into the fascinating world of attachment theory. Learn about the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they shape your relationships. Discover practical tools to improve emotional connection and self-awareness. Dr. Franco emphasizes the importance of empathy, especially towards those with avoidant tendencies, and provides insights on managing emotions like anger. This conversation will empower you to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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Marisa G Franco

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Intro

5min

Understanding Attachment Styles

11min

Understanding Attachment Styles and Compassionate Relationships

4min

Understanding Avoidant Attachment

16min

Reconnecting with Emotions: Tools for Avoidant Attachment Styles

5min

Understanding Safety in Relationships for Avoidant and Disorganized Attachment Styles

3min

Navigating Anger Through Attachment Styles

22min

Embracing Love Through Understanding Attachment Styles

3min

What if you could show up in any relationship feeling secure, exactly as you are?

You didn’t have to overthink every text you sent.

You wouldn’t have to play the dating games.

If somebody ghosted you, it wouldn’t be the end of the world.

Well I’m here to tell you today that you CAN be that person.

Meet the phenomenal Dr. Marisa Franco, New York Times bestselling author of “Platonic” and expert on attachment theory.

Today, we’re shining a light on your attachment style.

What is an attachment style?

Simple. It’s a framework backed by decades of research that will help you understand how you show up in relationships.

There are 4 attachment styles, and whether you’re aware of it or not, you default to one of them.

If you have a hard time setting boundaries with family members…

If you keep dating the same kind of people…

If you cling to relationships that have long expired…

Or if you’ve never been able to connect with someone on a deeply emotional level.

Blame your attachment style.

And here’s the good news: when you understand attachment theory, you can change your default attachment style and become more secure, which leads to happier and healthier relationships.

You deserve that, which is why this episode is for you.

Today, Dr. Franco breaks down the 4 attachment styles that make or break your relationships, AND the powerful tools you can use to improve them.

Once you understand your attachment style, you’ll have a lens through which to improve absolutely every relationship, especially the one you have with yourself.

Because at the deepest level, becoming more secure is about allowing love in.

Xo Mel

PS: One way to let more love in is to get in touch with your big dreams. Let me help you with a free journal guide: melrobbins.com/dreambig

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