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How to Argue Better | Oren Jay Sofer

Mar 30, 2022

Oren Jay Sofer, a meditation teacher and the author of "Say What You Mean," sheds light on the art of mindful communication. He emphasizes communication as a learnable skill that can enhance relationships. Topics include understanding personal motivations, the transformative power of nonviolent communication, and how conflict can deepen connections. Sofer also discusses techniques for engaging in meaningful conversations and the necessity of being present, suggesting that even everyday chats can foster personal growth.

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Intro

2min

Therapy and Mindful Communication

9min

The Art of Nonviolent Communication

24min

Navigating Nonviolent Communication and Personal Growth

5min

Navigating Conflict Through Mindful Communication

17min

Harnessing Everyday Conversations for Better Communication

5min

The Art of Relaxed Communication: Engaging in Meaningful Conversations

3min

Unlocking the Power of Effective Communication

5min

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This episode dives into our archives to revisit the notion of communication as a learnable skill. Often some of the most painful situations you encounter are the result of poor communication. The good news is that communication is a skill that can be learned.

Author and meditation teacher Oren Jay Sofer, a leading figure in the field of interpersonal communication, breaks down how communication can be one of the most powerful levers for creating positive change in your life.

Oren Jay Sofer is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. He also teaches mindfulness, meditation and nonviolent communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. He graduated from Insight Meditation Center’s Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto.

In this conversation, we also talk about:

How to become aware of what motivates you to communicate the way you do
Strategies for how to have more meaningful conversations
What it means to lead with presence
How conflict has the possibility to deepen our relationships and make peace

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-repost-165

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