TED Talks Daily Why you feel anxious socializing (and what to do about it) | Fallon Goodman
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Nov 30, 2022 Psychologist Fallon Goodman, a specialist in social anxiety, breaks down the complexities of this common issue. She discusses the connection between social anxiety and the fear of rejection, revealing how it can deeply affect self-image. Goodman busts myths surrounding the disorder and emphasizes the importance of early intervention. She advocates for embracing vulnerability as a means to achieve social courage, encouraging open discussions about mental health to foster genuine connections and improve self-esteem.
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Social Anxiety's Root
- Social anxiety stems from a fear of rejection, causing hyper-focus on others' perceptions.
- This hyper-focus helps us adapt to social norms to avoid rejection, which is inherently painful.
Problematic Social Anxiety
- Social anxiety becomes problematic when fear of rejection intertwines with self-worth.
- This leads to believing rejection stems from inherent personal flaws, not situational factors.
Social Anxiety and Happiness
- People with social anxiety aren't always happier alone; they desire and enjoy relationships.
- Their anxiety is context-specific, not a blanket aversion to all social interaction.