The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten When You Try And Make Up For Not Having Had Young, Casual Sex Within Your Marital Sex Life
Aug 6, 2025
Dive into the complexities of intimacy for men who feel they've missed out on youthful sexual experiences. The discussion uncovers how societal pressures and personal traumas shape marital dynamics. Explore the clash between unrealistic fantasies and the evolving realities of long-term relationships. Revel in the importance of acceptance and therapeutic support as couples navigate the intricacies of their sexual lives. This engaging talk blends practical advice with candid insights from experiences in couples therapy.
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Late-Blooming Regret Shapes Sexual Goals
- Men who missed a youthful experimental sex phase often regret it and try to reclaim it later in marriage.
- Samantha Rodman Whiten links this to late-blooming, religious upbringing, anxiety, or early sexless relationships.
Regret Follows Personality And Upbringing
- People vary widely in how they handle losses or unmet desires, reverting toward baseline happiness over time.
- Samantha notes catastrophic thinkers magnify sexual regrets as part of broader negative outlooks shaped by upbringing.
Don’t Use Your Partner To Recreate Youth
- Avoid asking your long-term partner to perform your lost youth fantasies as if they exist solely to fulfill your list.
- Discuss desires collaboratively and respect that your wife may not want a wild experimental sex life you idealize.
