You Have Permission Dobson’s Legacy: Trauma, Attachment & Shame (#348)
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Sep 8, 2025 Delve into the profound impact of authoritarian parenting and its legacy on adult relationships. Explore how teachings from a controversial evangelical figure contributed to trauma and shame cycles that persist today. Discover the importance of recognizing dysfunctional attachment styles and the necessity for nurturing discipline over rigid obedience. The conversation highlights the journey of healing from spiritual abuse, navigates the nuanced dynamics of guilt and shame, and empowers listeners to redefine their personal values and relationships.
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Raised Inside Dobson-Influenced Culture
- Emily Maynard explains she was raised at the intersection of Dobson, IBLP, and fundamentalist ideas and was homeschooled until college.
- She now works as a licensed marriage and family therapist focusing on trauma, anxiety, and religious issues.
Spanking Framed As 'Loving Discipline'
- Dobson promoted 'firm but loving' discipline and advocated spanking as natural and useful for teaching respect and self-control.
- Emily and Dan argue this teaching persisted despite mounting evidence it is ineffective and harmful.
Normalization Hides Harm
- Dobson normalized physical discipline across many religious and cultural groups and made it hard for adults to see it as abuse.
- Emily says this normalization obscures signs of physical, emotional, spiritual, and sexual abuse in adulthood.
