ManTalks Podcast Why Men Get Sex Wrong with Dr. Nicole McNichols
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Dec 15, 2025 In a captivating discussion, Dr. Nicole McNichols, a clinical psychologist and renowned 'Sex Professor', dismantles common myths men hold about sex and attraction. They explore how performance anxiety affects intimacy and emphasize that curiosity can boost sexual confidence. Nicole argues that planned intimacy can enhance desire and breaks down the importance of emotional attunement in relationships. She also sheds light on attachment styles and urges men to communicate their needs for better erotic collaboration. Prepare for a deeper understanding of sex!
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Media Creates False Sexual Standards
- Porn and media create unconscious sexual standards that sabotage presence and pleasure.
- Sexual curiosity, not mythical physical traits, predicts satisfaction.
Spectatoring Kills Sexual Presence
- Spectatoring makes you judge performance from a third-person view and kills presence.
- That internal audience arises from comparing yourself to porn/idealized templates.
Use Your Best-Of Sex Memory Tonight
- Tonight: sit on the couch and ask your partner what the best sex you've ever had was and describe it in detail.
- Use that shared memory to recreate the emotional state and practical elements that fueled it.
