Journalist and author Neil Strauss joins the podcast to discuss underwater pool workouts, billion-dollar smoothies, virtual reality gaming, and his experiences in sex addiction therapy. They also explore the impacts of heartbreak on relationships, the use of oxytocin and Viagra for enhancing connectivity, the effects of coffee on stem cells, and the influence of upbringing on relationships and self-worth.
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Examining overreactions and false beliefs can lead to personal growth and healthier relationships.
Childhood experiences shape core beliefs and understanding their origins can help replace negative beliefs.
Shifting beliefs and identity involves questioning false beliefs and recognizing inherent worth.
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Recognizing Overreactions and False Beliefs
One important step in personal growth is to recognize overreactions and overreactions, such as anger, shutdown, or anxiety, which are often driven by false beliefs. By examining these overreactions, one can identify deeper wounds and false beliefs that may stem from upbringing or past experiences. Understanding the root of these beliefs can help challenge and let go of them, ultimately leading to a healthier sense of self and more fulfilling relationships.
The Impact of Childhood and Core Beliefs
Childhood experiences, especially those related to parents and close relationships, can shape core beliefs about oneself. These beliefs may affect self-worth, identity, and behavior. By examining and understanding the origins of these core beliefs, individuals can gain insight into their thought patterns and work towards replacing negative beliefs with positive ones. This process often involves re-parenting oneself and learning to provide self-validation and love.
Shifting Beliefs and Identity
Shifting beliefs and identity is a transformative process that involves questioning false beliefs and replacing them with truths. Recognizing that worth and value as a person are inherent and not dependent on external accomplishments can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. By re-parenting oneself and challenging limiting beliefs, individuals can cultivate a healthier sense of self and a stronger foundation for personal growth and relationships.
Striving for Excellence without Compulsiveness
For individuals driven by achievement and always striving for the next level, it is important to explore the beliefs underlying this drive. Recognizing that worth and value exist regardless of accomplishments can help break free from compulsive behaviors and find a healthier balance. Instead of being driven by external validation, individuals can focus on making choices that align with their authentic selves and experience a sense of fulfillment and joy in their pursuits.
The Importance of Being Self-Sufficient
The podcast episode explores the idea of self-sufficiency and the importance of being prepared for emergencies. The speaker describes how in today's world, where disasters and acts of terrorism are a constant threat, individuals need to take responsibility for their own safety. They emphasize the need to stockpile food, water, and other essential supplies for at least two weeks in case of emergencies. The speaker also shares their personal experience of learning survival skills, such as wilderness survival and urban escape techniques, to develop a sense of security and self-reliance.
Identifying and Changing Limiting Beliefs
The podcast delves into the concept of limiting beliefs and their impact on our lives and success. The speaker encourages listeners to identify their own limiting beliefs, such as fear of failure or fear of success, which can hinder personal growth. They highlight the importance of being aware of these beliefs and choosing new, empowering beliefs to replace them. By becoming a scientist of their own lows and examining the origin of these beliefs, individuals can make positive changes and overcome self-sabotage. The speaker also emphasizes the value of teamwork and surrounding oneself with supportive people who can help in challenging moments.
Neil Strauss is an American author, journalist and ghostwriter, perhaps best known for his controversial best-selling book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, in which he describes his experiences in the seduction community in an effort to become a "pick-up artist." He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and also writes regularly for The New York Times. But Neil's interests go far beyond "seduction". For example, in his book Emergency: This Book Will Save Your Life, he spent three years surviving amongst survivalists, tax-dodgers, billionaire businessmen, and the government itself, and the book was hailed by Rolling Stone as an "escape plan" for the current world crisis. When I visited Neil's home in Malibu to record this interview, I found myself immersed with Neil in everything from advanced virtual reality game playing, crazy underwater pool workouts, surfing with internet celebrities and drinking "billion-dollar smoothies", all of which you'll hear about in this podcast recorded from Neil's kitchen.
During our discussion, which gets slightly explicit at times, you'll discover:
-Exactly how to do an underwater pool workout like Laird Hamilton...[7:25]
-The ingredients of the "billion dollar smoothie"...[12:50]
-Why Neil and I were surfing with internet celebrity Cameron Dallas prior to recording the episode...[16:20]
-Why Neil is so interested in advanced virtual reality gaming...[18:20]
-Why Neil checked himself into sex addiction therapy...[22:30]
-Neil's uncomfortable volley of questions to me in which I potentially throw my Mom and Dad "under the bus"...[36:40 & 55:00]
-Neil's three steps for "rewiring" your brain without the use of smart drugs or biohacks...[45:30 & 63:00]
-Why Neil paid to get thrown in the back of a trunk with his hands ziptied together...[77:30] -And much more!