468: When to Show Emotion, with Bonni Stachowiak

May 4, 2020

The discussion delves into the delicate balance of showing emotion in leadership, especially during tough times like the pandemic. Leaders are encouraged to embrace vulnerability while ensuring effective communication. The importance of self-awareness and open dialogue is highlighted, fostering connection within teams. The hosts also share practical advice for navigating anxiety and stress, including acknowledging perceptions of risk. Listeners are invited to explore valuable resources to enhance their leadership skills further.

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ADVICE

Emotional Responses

Pause and reflect before reacting emotionally to unexpected situations.
Ask if expressing the emotion will be helpful to others and the situation.

INSIGHT

Authenticity vs. Narcissism

Expressing fear or sadness can be powerful if it connects with the group's experience.
Authenticity is key, but avoid making it about yourself as a leader.

ADVICE

Storytelling with Purpose

Consider if a story is about you or if it serves a purpose for others.
Share stories that help move people forward, not just stories about yourself.

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