Why do we push ourselves to be perfect? With Thomas Curran, PhD
Dec 11, 2024
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Perfectionism is rising, especially socially prescribed, due to societal influences and parental pressure.
The multidimensional perfectionism scale measures increasing levels of self-oriented and socially prescribed perfectionism over time.
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Rising Rates of Perfectionism Among Young People
Research by Dr. Curran reveals a significant increase in perfectionism among college students over recent decades, particularly socially prescribed perfectionism where individuals feel pressured to be perfect. Current data shows a 33% rise in socially prescribed perfectionism since the late 80s, highlighting a concerning trend toward unrealistic expectations.
Measurement of Perfectionism
The multidimensional perfectionism scale, developed by psychologists Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett, is commonly used to measure perfectionism. This tool assesses social- and self-oriented perfectionism, revealing trends over time. Students' responses over 30+ years show increasing levels of self-oriented and socially prescribed perfectionism.
Drivers of Perfectionism
Various factors contribute to the rise in perfectionism, including changing parental behaviors, increased academic pressures, and societal influences like social media. Parental practices emphasizing high achievement and societal demands for excellence are correlated with heightened levels of perfectionism among young individuals.
Impact of Perfectionism on Mental Health
Perfectionism, particularly socially prescribed perfectionism, correlates strongly with mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Dr. Curran suggests that societal standards and achievement cultures play a role in shaping perfectionistic tendencies and contribute to the current youth mental health crisis.
In job interviews and in life, perfectionism is often seen as a selling point – an asset disguised as a flaw. But as psychologists have found rising rates of perfectionism in the United States and around the world in recent decades, they’ve begun to recognize the toll that the drive to be perfect can take on people’s mental health and well-being. Thomas Curran, PhD, author of “The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough,” talks about different types of perfectionism, why more and more of us feel the need to push ourselves to perfection, and what can we do – as individuals, as parents and as a society – to recognize that often, ‘good’ is good enough.