Healing + Human Potential How To Keep Love Alive After 16+ Years — Alyssa Nobriga On Real Intimacy | EP 98
Jul 22, 2025
Charlie Travers interviews intimacy expert Alyssa Nobriga, who shares insights from her 16-year relationship. They discuss tools for maintaining love, such as regulating emotions before tough conversations and techniques for effective communication. Alyssa reveals how understanding childhood triggers can replace blame with connection, and emphasizes the significance of vulnerability in keeping intimacy alive. Listeners will discover how to deepen emotional safety and create real connections, no matter their relationship status.
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Communication Misunderstanding Insight
- Most people think they're communicating clearly but actually are not, which harms relationships.
- True communication involves sharing underlying emotions and reflecting feelings to build heart-level connection.
Regulate Before Relating
- Regulate your nervous system before difficult conversations to avoid spiraling into defense and shutdown.
- Take a break when triggered, communicate return time, then return to the conversation with more presence.
Choosing Love Over Right
- Emilio often chooses love over being right and quickly apologizes for how Alyssa feels.
- This approach softens tensions and creates connection without unnecessary blame.
