He Is Free: Practical Tools To Quit Porn For Good, Stop Watching Porn, Freedom From Porn #168: Re-release: Stop Battling Porn Urges and Start Befriending Them (with Jenna Riemersma)
Jul 14, 2026
Jenna Riemersma, licensed therapist and bestselling author known for IFS work, offers a fresh approach to urges. She explains why parts that drive compulsive behavior are trying to help. Short practical segments introduce a simple three-step Move Toward tool to notice, ask, and meet what urges need. The conversation focuses on befriending urges, accessing the Self, and using real-time practices to create internal space.
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Urges Are Messengers Not Enemies
- Urges and burdened parts are actually trying to help us, not attack us.
- Jenna explains befriending these parts with curiosity and compassion is more effective than fighting them.
Husband's Transformation Sparked Her IFS Journey
- Jenna discovered IFS after seeing her non-therapist husband transformed by Dr. Schwartz's book and therapy.
- His profound change motivated her to study IFS and apply it clinically.
Inner Family And The Burdened Parts Mechanism
- IFS frames the mind as an inner family of parts plus a core Self that can lead them compassionately.
- Parts become burdened by trauma and get stuck in protective but harmful roles like compulsive porn use.
