#102 - Ed Latimore | Not Caring What Other People Think
Nov 16, 2021
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Ed Latimore, former professional heavy weight boxer, army veteran, and best-selling author, discusses his journey into boxing, his battle with alcoholism and sobriety, and the power of not caring what people think. They also touch on the boxing scene, bouncing back from failure, and looking inward to unearth trauma. Ed shares advice to his younger self and emphasizes the superpower of not caring what other people think.
Sobriety transformed the speaker's life by preserving relationships and personal growth.
Not seeking validation from others brings peace and authenticity, aligning actions with personal values.
Actively listening and valuing others' perspectives cultivates compassion and fosters effective communication.
Deep dives
Importance of Sobriety
The speaker reflects on his journey of alcoholism and how sobriety has transformed his life. He discusses the pain of being a social outcast and the fear of abandonment that fueled his need to fit in. The decision to stop drinking came from a desire to preserve the things he valued, such as relationships and personal growth. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing the underlying issues that lead to destructive habits and taking steps towards self-improvement.
Not Caring What Others Think
The speaker highlights the significance of not seeking validation from others and not letting their opinions define one's self-worth. He reflects on his own journey of overcoming the need to be liked and how it has brought him a sense of peace and authenticity. He emphasizes the value of aligning actions with personal values and building relationships based on respect rather than superficiality.
Importance of Listening and Humility
The speaker discusses the importance of actively listening to others and seeking to understand them. He sees humility as a key virtue that fosters effective communication and connection with people. By valuing others' perspectives, he cultivates compassion and remains open to learning from others. He expresses pride in his ability to approach interactions with genuine interest and humility.
Building a Life Worth Being Proud Of
The speaker reflects on the transformation he has undergone in his journey of sobriety, personal growth, and self-awareness. He shares his values of integrity, respect, and listening, which have contributed to a fulfilling and meaningful life. By prioritizing the things that truly matter to him, such as relationships and personal development, he has found a sense of pride and contentment in the person he has become.
Ongoing Evolution and Projects
The speaker expresses his commitment to continuing personal growth and improvement. He mentions his current focus on writing another book and pursuing various projects. While acknowledging the limitations of his abilities and time, he remains driven to make progress and contribute positively to his chosen endeavors.
Ed Latimore is a former professional heavy weight boxer. Outside of the ring, he is an army veteran, best-selling author, speaker, competitive chess player, and holds a bachelor of arts degree in Physics.
Lewis and Ed discuss Ed’s journey into boxing that helped him develop a mastery mindset, his relationship with alcoholism and how he got sober, and his book Not Caring What People Think Is A Superpower.
Lewis & Ed discuss:
[03:53] How Ed got into boxing [06:38] The price of greatness [10:26] Ed’s internal locus of expectation [12:09] Developing a mastery mindset [14:43] Reframe negative experiences with responsibility [16:17] Beating a tough opponent [20:05] What Ed’s loves most about fighting [23:05] The current boxing scene [30:36] Imposter syndrome has no place in boxing [35:10] Bouncing back from failure [38:08] Alcoholism and the road to sobriety [46:16] Ed’s advice to his younger self [47:47] Not Caring What Other People Think Is A Superpower [50:32] “I cared what people thought so I became an alcoholic” [53:33] How to look inward and unearth trauma [56:43] The values that Ed’s proud of [1:00:35] Ed’s future projects