At Peace Parents Podcast Ep. 136 - Teaching Frustration Tolerance to My PDA Child?
Dec 9, 2025
A mother shares her challenges in building frustration tolerance for her 7-year-old daughter with PDA, ADHD, and anxiety. They explore the complexities of each condition and how they interact. Key insights include assessing emotional needs and strategies for intervention based on seasonal patterns. Practical examples highlight the importance of clear boundaries and responses to nightly meltdowns involving both daughters. A unique cost-benefit decision tool is introduced to help navigate parenting dilemmas with honesty and acceptance.
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Multiple Drivers Can Alternate
- PDA, ADHD and anxiety can each drive different behaviors and may alternate as the dominant factor for a child.
Use The Window Of Tolerance First
- Window of tolerance determines whether pushing for resilience will help or harm a PDA child. Gauge whether the child is hovering, in burnout, or has a larger window before increasing demands.
Track Three Core Indicators
- Monitor three consistent indicators: connection, basic needs, and nervous system activation. Use those indicators to decide whether to push, accommodate, or protect the child from demands.