How to Bounce Back from a Sex Slump w/ Dr. Emily Nagoski
Feb 2, 2024
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Renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, discusses bouncing back from a sex slump, the importance of pausing sex, and prioritizing pleasure. They explore communication in sexual relationships, the impact of touch and loneliness on women's sexual satisfaction, and how the patriarchy affects sexual desires.
Prioritizing pleasure over linear desire and unlearning societal shame are crucial for sexual well-being.
Managing stress, setting boundaries, and prioritizing personal pleasure are key to revitalizing one's sex life.
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Navigating Shame, Trauma, and Pleasure in Sexual Well-being
Dr. Emily Nagoski highlights the role of shame, trauma, and pleasure in sexual well-being. She encourages individuals to unlearn societal and family-imposed shame and normalize conversations around sex. Dr. Nagoski suggests exploring body-based somatic therapies and understanding the impact of trauma on the nervous system. She emphasizes the importance of pleasure as a metric for sexual well-being and highlights the need to prioritize personal pleasure over societal expectations and norms. Additionally, she discusses the significance of a shared sex-positive garden in relationships and the importance of consent and collaboration in cultivating pleasurable sexual experiences.
The Influence of Stress and the Power of Pausing Sex
Dr. Emily Nagoski and Dr. Emily Morse discuss the impact of stress on sexual desire and pleasure. They emphasize the need for self-awareness and self-care in managing stress and its effects on sexuality. The conversation includes insights on breathwork as a tool to calm the nervous system and stay present during sexual experiences. They also address the significance of setting boundaries and communicating preferences in sexual encounters. Dr. Nagoski shares personal anecdotes about stopping and starting sex, highlighting that pleasure and personal choice should take precedence over maintaining momentum in sexual encounters.
Sex Education and Supporting Young Adults' Sexual Exploration
The podcast episode briefly touches on sex education for young adults. It encourages parents to engage in ongoing conversations with their children about topics related to sexuality, using age-appropriate information and resources. The importance of creating a safe space for discussing pleasure, consent, and relationships is highlighted. Book recommendations, such as the works of Corey Silverberg and Peggy Orenstein, are provided as helpful resources for parents. The conversation also acknowledges the challenges presented by social media and emphasizes the need for open dialogue, curiosity, and supporting young adults' social development outside of digital platforms.
I’m bringing you all into a LIVE conversation I had with renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, during a recent event in New York! After releasing her bestselling book on sex, Come As You Are, in 2015, Emily’s own sex life took a hit. Today, we discuss how she brought her sex life back from the dead, the Pleasure Thieves, and why it’s okay to stop sex once it’s already started.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to identify your sexual brakes and accelerators
About the connection between wearing socks and having more orgasms
