This Is How You Think - A Personal Growth and Mindset Shift Podcast People Pleasing: Why You Stay In Bad Relationships and How to Finally Break the Cycle
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Oct 17, 2025 Explore the inertia trap, where knowing something is wrong isn't enough to leave. Discover how childhood shapes responses and fosters people-pleasing behaviors. Jule shares her journey of staying in an unhealthy relationship for years, highlighting pivotal moments, like a hospital visit, that shattered the cycle. Learn to question 'What do I want?' to rebuild self-trust and recognize your worth. This insightful discussion empowers listeners to challenge societal norms and prioritize self-respect in relationships.
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Childhood Shapes People-Pleasing Patterns
- Growing up in a critical, chaotic household taught Jule to avoid speaking up and to people-please.
- That childhood normalcy of fear and accommodation later showed up as overfunctioning in adult relationships.
Seven Years Of Relationship Inertia
- Jule Kim stayed in a relationship for seven years despite knowing it was wrong from month one.
- A hospital visit with a ruptured ovarian cyst finally broke her inertia and prompted the breakup.
Being Terrified Of A Healthy Partner
- Jule met Jason, who was kind, grounded, and healthy, which felt alien compared to her previous partner.
- She made excuses and stayed with her boyfriend out of fear and imposter feelings about being seen.