The inertia trap: When you know it's wrong but stay anyway.
That feeling when something's off, but you can't explain why. You tell yourself to be grateful, to stop complaining, to just keep going.
If you've ever stayed too long—in a job, a friendship, a relationship—even when every fiber of your being is screaming at you to leave, this episode is for you, especially if you're a people pleaser, have overfunctioning tendencies, or feel like there should be something more to life.
I get really honest about staying in a relationship I knew was wrong from month one. The turning point in a hospital room that finally broke through years of ignoring my gut.
And the one question that I wish I had known would change everything.
This is about what happens when you spend your whole life listening to everyone but yourself—and what it takes to finally stop.
In this episode:
- How childhood shapes our responses
- Why "normal" isn't the same as "right"
- The real reason we stay when we know we should go
- One daily practice to rebuild self-trust
This episode is dedicated to my brother Jon, who passed away in July 2025: You only have one life to live as your true self. Make the most of it.
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