Episode 357: Navigating ADHD and Sex

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Dec 27, 2024

Cate Osborn, a certified sex educator and mental health advocate with ADHD, dives into the often-overlooked intersection of ADHD, intimacy, and relationships. She discusses why ADHD can lead to both lower and higher sexual desire and how it affects orgasm. The conversation uncovers gender differences in experiences and the challenges of online dating, emphasizing rejection sensitivity. Cate also highlights how BDSM can enhance focus for those with ADHD, offering practical tips for improving relationships and navigating intimacy.

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ANECDOTE

Late ADHD Diagnosis

Cate Osborn was diagnosed with ADHD the day before her 30th birthday.
This late diagnosis sparked her interest in the impact of ADHD on adult lives, especially on sex and intimacy, leading her to become a sex educator.

INSIGHT

ADHD and Desire Paradox

ADHD can affect sexual desire in opposing ways.
Some studies link ADHD to higher impulsivity and sexual eagerness, while others suggest it can lead to lower desire.

INSIGHT

Fluctuating Desire

ADHD's impact on desire varies, influenced by hormonal changes and individual baselines.
Desire fluctuates, especially for women, and isn't subject to a universal 'normal' level.

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Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a topic that is rarely discussed in terms of how it affects adults’ intimate lives, but it’s something we need to talk about. Research suggests that around 40% of adults with ADHD experience at least one form of sexual dysfunction. In today’s show, we’re going to explore what you need to know about ADHD, sex, and relationships.

I am joined by Cate Osborn, a certified sex educator, mental health advocate, and full-time content creator, with ADHD. As a professional table top role-playing game performer, she is passionate about opening conversations about neurodiversity and accessibility in the gaming and BDSM/kink communities.

Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

Why is ADHD linked to both lower and higher sexual desire?
How does ADHD affect orgasm?
Are there gender differences in how ADHD impacts sex?
What are some of the ways ADHD can affect relationships outside of the bedroom?
If you’re someone who finds yourself constantly distracted during sex, what can you do about this?

You can check out Cate’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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