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More Happier: Do Holidays Leave You Exhausted, Not Restored? Priya Parker, Francis Lam & Kate Bowler on Celebration

Nov 22, 2025
This roundtable features Priya Parker, a facilitator and author focused on meaningful gatherings; Francis Lam, a culinary expert passionate about food rituals; and Kate Bowler, an author studying success and grief. They dive into making holidays more meaningful by defining gathering purposes and using food as a ritual. Participants discuss ways to involve guests in preparation, embrace grief, and ease societal pressures surrounding celebrations. Practical tips include themed contributions and unique rituals that foster connection and honor complex emotions.
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ADVICE

Define Your Gathering's Purpose

  • Pause and explicitly define the purpose of any gathering before planning it.
  • Host events you actually want to attend to reduce dread and focus on connection.
ANECDOTE

Tree Trimming With Photo Ornaments

  • A Cirque du Soleil choreographer held a tree-trimming party where guests sent two happy photos.
  • He printed the photos as ornaments so conversations centered on shared moments of joy.
ADVICE

Turn Food Into Ritual

  • Use remembrance, nostalgia, and repeated action to make food a ritual.
  • Involve guests in preparation or assign meaningful contributions to deepen connection.
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