Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading happiness researcher, dives deep into the science of happiness. She shares surprising insights on what truly enhances well-being, revealing the significance of meaningful relationships over money. The discussion covers the transformative impact of kindness, the complexities of romance, and the therapeutic use of psychedelics for emotional struggles. They explore how self-care and emotional diversity play a role in joy, while also addressing the nuanced challenges of parenthood and the pursuit of personal goals.
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Money and Happiness
Money matters to happiness, but the pursuit of money leads to unhappiness.
This applies to extrinsic goals like wealth, power, beauty, and fame.
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Relationships and Happiness
Romantic relationships significantly contribute to happiness, but quality matters.
Bad relationships cause suffering, while high-quality, committed ones boost happiness.
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Age and Happiness
Contrary to popular belief about youth, happiness tends to increase with age.
The least happy age group is 14 to 28 due to uncertainties about identity and life goals.
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Imagine if you could sit down with one of the world’s leading happiness researchers and ask her, one by one, what actually makes people happier and what doesn’t?
Well, that’s basically what I did.
In this episode, Sonja and I get deep into the subject of happiness. One by one, we conclude which of life’s simple and not-so-simple pleasures are underrated or overrated. Some of the answers will definitely surprise you.
Do yourself a favor—watch, like, and share the happiness.