#25: Understanding Acting In and Gaslighting

In this week’s episode we discuss Acting In which is also called Intimacy Aversion.  We also discuss Gaslighting, a close cousin to Acting In.

Intimacy Aversion is keeping others at arms length in order to self-protect and self-preserve (in an unhealthy way).  While this is a part of the human condition, it’s especially prevalent with men struggling with sexual integrity issues and it’s incredibly damaging - for some, it’s emotionally abusive.

We also dig into Gaslighting.  There is a difference between Intimacy Aversion and Gaslighting which lies in the motivation. The motivation behind Intimacy Aversion is more about self-preservation whereas the motivation with Gaslighting is about making someone think they are crazy.

We discuss reasons for these behaviors and what to do as a wife when this happens. 

We are so glad YOU are here and look forward to discussing more of how to heal from Intimacy Aversion NEXT week.   

• Acting In techniques can be found here.
• We mention Sarah Morales and the great work she is doing around Gaslighting.  She can be found here.
• We mention the Sitting on Secrets Episode from Season #1 (Episode 10) which can be found here.
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