ADHD with Jenna Free

EP. 22: ADHD People-Pleasing Explained - When 'Being Nice' Is Really About Staying Safe | ADHD with Jenna Free

Aug 25, 2025
Explore the hidden fawn response in ADHD and how it drives people-pleasing behaviors rooted in survival instincts. Learn how being in survival mode can skew relationships and hinder self-advocacy. Discover practical strategies to break free from these patterns, set healthy boundaries, and embrace vulnerability. It's essential to express your needs, take up space, and feel empowered to say no. By understanding these dynamics, you can foster authentic connections and prioritize your well-being.
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INSIGHT

Fawn Is A Survival Response

  • Fawn is a survival response that appears as people-pleasing to avoid exclusion.
  • It evolved to keep us safe but is often unnecessary in modern life.
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People-Pleasing Signals Survival Mode

  • Constantly seeking everyone's approval is a sign you're in survival mode.
  • That state prioritizes self-preservation over genuine connection or thriving.
ADVICE

Pause Before You Agree

  • Slow down before answering requests by using a go-to sentence like "let me check my schedule."
  • Sit with the request to assess whether you truly want to say yes or are acting from fear.
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