Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Beyond Resolutions: Discover What You Want in 2025

Dec 30, 2024

Why do New Year's resolutions often crash and burn by February? The discussion dives into authentic goal-setting versus societal pressures. Listeners will learn to replace 'shoulds' with intrinsic motivations for true fulfillment. Practical techniques for identifying personal values are shared, along with a role-play on nurturing meaningful relationships. Explore how emotional awareness impacts decision-making and the importance of kindness over rigid expectations in achieving personal growth. This approach promises a transformative New Year!

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Quick takeaways

Identifying authentic wants rather than societal 'shoulds' is essential for meaningful and lasting change in goal setting.

Shifting from a punitive mindset to one embracing personal growth encourages better engagement with our resolutions throughout the year.

Fostering a nurturing internal dialogue and practicing self-acceptance promotes healthier approaches to achieving one's aspirations and desires.

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Navigating New Year Resolutions

As the new year approaches, many people feel pressured by the wave of New Year’s resolutions that suggest they should change their lives drastically, such as learning new skills or adopting healthier routines. Despite initial motivation, many find themselves returning to old habits by February. This pattern often stems from a disconnect between what individuals believe they should do and what they truly desire for fulfillment. To avoid this cycle, it is crucial to identify authentic wants and needs rather than simply following societal expectations.

Intro

3min

Finding Fulfillment: From Surviving to Thriving

18min

The Power of Emotional Awareness in Decision-Making

5min

Finding Your 'Ooh': The Power of Intrinsic Motivation

8min

Kindness Over 'Shoulds': A New Approach to Resolutions

3min

Reclaiming Intrinsic Motivation

14min

Navigating Love and Personal Growth

10min

Embracing Personal Fulfillment

14min

Why do New Year's resolutions usually fail by February? Forrest and Dr. Rick explore why traditional goal-setting falls short and offer a new approach to creating lasting change. They discuss how we can uncover our authentic wants and needs, move away from a punishment mindset, and use our new knowledge to find fulfillment. This episode will teach you how to get more out of any other New Year’s content you listen to.

Rick and Forrest walk through a practical example of brain dumping “shoulds,” shifting the focus from means to ends, and working with internal resistance. They end the episode with a role-play focused on working with someone who wants to find a more meaningful relationship.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:35: Fulfillment as a target, and other healthy ways of orienting to our goals

14:00: Cataloguing our “shoulds”, and being driven by a sense of enthusiasm

23:20: How Forrest has personally connected with his authentic wants

30:15: The “punishment part”

35:50: Practical techniques for identifying our values

41:45: A roleplay focused on how to find a meaningful relationship

51:25: Reviewing the roleplay

55:05: Knowing your why

59:50: Developing your personal psychology, and surrendering to the best within you

1:03:40: Recap

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