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IFS Talks

Working with sex and sexuality using IFS with Victoria Kirby

Mar 22, 2022
Victoria Kirby, an IFS and IFIO therapist from London, shares her insights on navigating the complexities of sex and sexuality. With a rich background in public health and sexual health advocacy, she discusses the intricate interplay of emotional needs, consent, and sexual shame in therapy. Victoria emphasizes the importance of creating a safe environment to explore genuine sexual needs and addresses challenges therapists face in discussions of sexuality. She also highlights her upcoming workshop, aiming to equip practitioners with tools for deeper conversations around sexual identity and relationships.
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  • Acknowledging sexuality in therapy addresses core attachment needs, promoting healthier relationships and better therapeutic outcomes for clients.
  • Understanding internal consent helps clients recognize discrepancies between external and internal agreement, fostering emotional safety during sexual interactions.

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The Significance of Sexuality in Therapy

Sexuality is a fundamental aspect of human identity and psychological well-being, existing from birth to death. Many therapists overlook this critical area due to societal shame and the stigma surrounding discussions of sex. By neglecting sexuality in therapy, practitioners fail to address core attachment needs such as safety, connection, and belonging. Acknowledging and exploring these needs can lead to healthier sexual relationships and better therapeutic outcomes for clients.

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