The Great Unlearn 173. Unraveling the Victim, Villain, Hero Loop: Tah and Kole Whitty of The Condor Approach
Apr 8, 2025
Tah and Kole Whitty, co-founders of The Condor Approach, dive into the Oppression Trap Triangle, revealing how the roles of victim, villain, and hero perpetuate inner conflict. They discuss the hidden benefits of victimhood and the energetic dynamics at play in social media. Kole shares personal trauma experiences and how psychedelics unveiled their identity patterns. Emphasizing grief as a transformative gateway, they advocate for reclaiming one's story and integrating emotions into action for holistic healing.
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Oppression Trap Triangle Reveals Role Dynamics
- The Oppression Trap Triangle reframes the drama triangle into victim, villain, and victor roles that co-create cycles of harm and rescue.
- Removing the victim identity collapses the triangle because without a victim there's no need for villain or rescuer.
Pain Became A Shortcut To Connection
- Kole recounts repeatedly injuring himself because pain brought him attention and shielded him from emotional failure.
- His body learned that physical injury delivered love and significance, so trauma repeated until he addressed the identity.
Blame Kept Tah Locked In The Triangle
- Tah described blaming her brother for decades and rallying others to rescue her, which entrenched the victim-villain-victor cycle.
- Letting go of that identity relaxed her body and changed relationships once she stopped projecting villain labels.