Delve into the intriguing dynamics of masturbation within marriage. Discover how it can strengthen intimacy and connection when approached healthily. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication and establishing sexual agreements to respect individual desires. This exploration challenges traditional views and encourages couples to embrace their sexuality.
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Healthy Masturbation Enhances Marital Intimacy
Masturbation within marriage can enhance connection, intimacy, and help manage different desire levels healthily.
Sexual agreements about masturbation allow couples to own their sexuality without pressuring the lower desire spouse.
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Masturbation Should Not Replace Intimacy
Approach masturbation within marriage by giving your partner a chance to connect first before masturbating.
Avoid using masturbation as a coping mechanism to replace intimacy or as a tool for anger.
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Set Sexual Agreements Openly
Discuss and set explicit sexual agreements around masturbation to avoid secrecy and arguments.
Use sexual agreements to build intimacy and connection rather than control your partner's sexuality.
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My most downloaded podcast episode is #134 - Masturbation and the Church. I published this episode over 2 years ago and it’s still something I get asked about all of the time. It’s a hot topic because of the negative messages we have received about masturbation. So, in this episode, we’re going to look at how masturbation can increase your connection and intimacy in your marriage, if done in a healthy way. Curious? Listen in!