In this engaging chat, Alex Grendi, a former professional soccer player turned certified men's sex coach, dives into the often-taboo subject of male sexuality. He discusses overcoming childhood shame and societal pressures surrounding sex. Alex offers insights on the impact of pornography on intimacy and the importance of open conversations about desires. Listeners will learn practical ways to ask for feedback and improve their sexual experiences, emphasizing the need for emotional connection and vulnerability in the bedroom.
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Porn Sets Unrealistic Standards
Men often equate being "good at sex" with porn star performance, which is an unrealistic standard.
This creates undue pressure and misunderstanding about real sexual connection and satisfaction.
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Manage Stress for Sexual Safety
Start by identifying your daily stress triggers and practice breath regulation to calm down.
Reducing baseline stress helps create safety in your body, improving sexual confidence and performance.
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Explore Full-Body Pleasure
Explore touching your entire body with different pressures and textures to discover what feels good.
Breaking shame around this expands pleasure beyond just genital stimulation.
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From the time we were little boys and young men, the topic of sex has always seemed to conjure up thoughts of embarrassment and shame. It’s unfortunate (to say the least) considering that most men equate sex with the woman in their lives an integral part of the relationship and connection. My guest today, Alex Grendi, has made it his life’s work to explore men’s relationships with sex and how we can not only get more of it but make it more meaningful for ourselves and the women in our lives. We talk about porn’s impact on sexual relationships, how to overcome childhood shame around the conversation of sex, how to solicit and ask for feedback in your performance in the bedroom (including how to ask for what you want), why nice guys never get what they want from intimacy, and the psychological and physiological issues men deal with when with their lady.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:25 - Misconceptions About Men and Sex 00:56 - Shame and Societal Expectations 02:05 - Defining "Good" at Sex 03:22 - Impact of Pornography 04:32 - Healthy Perspective on Sex 06:01 - Creating Safety in the Bedroom 07:44 - Balancing Quickies and Intimacy 09:18 - Pornography and Performance Issues 10:54 - Navigating Religious Shame 12:02 - Talking to Kids About Sex 14:57 - Overcoming Shame and Insecurity 18:19 - Steps to Address Performance Anxiety 22:51 - Managing Stress for Better Intimacy 25:05 - Exploring Non-Genital Pleasure 29:24 - Importance of Foreplay 32:18 - Honoring Your Own Needs 36:14 - Mastering Edging Techniques 41:30 - Removing Ejaculation as the Goal 44:42 - Communicating Desires Effectively 50:28 - Leadership in Intimacy 53:06 - Reframing Sexual Intentions 55:42 - Connecting with Alex Grendi
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