
Curiouser and curiouser confidence tips aren't actually helping you
Jan 28, 2026
They unpack how confidence culture turns systemic problems into personal failings. They contrast male pickup-style messaging with the pressure on women to perform a loud, extroverted confidence. They critique quick-fix tips and parenting or dating advice that treats confidence as an attractiveness skill. They explore alternatives like introspection, solidarity, and community support.
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Confidence Content Promises Yet Underdelivers
- Confidence content promises individual transformation but often fails to deliver lasting change.
- Leonie Dams notes she consumed years of tips without becoming permanently confident.
Female Confidence Is Packaged Around Appearance And Work
- Confidence advice for women often centers on body positivity and corporate success narratives.
- Leonie links this to beauty standards and workplace sexism that erode women's confidence.
A Narrow Stereotype Of The Confident Woman
- The stereotypical confident woman is loud, extroverted, and dominant, which alienates some personalities.
- Leonie highlights that this narrow image excludes introspective or quieter women.













