Jerry Colonna, a premier executive coach, discusses resilience, self-esteem, anxiety, motivation, and rituals for fulfillment. They delve into the cost of external expectations, power of positive and negative thoughts, impact of having a 'chip on your shoulder,' and the benefits of journaling and processing emotions. They also discuss developing resilience, understanding nonviolent communication, and defining success beyond material possessions.
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Quick takeaways
Resilience is important, but the ultimate goal is equanimity, learning from mistakes without damaging self-worth.
Recognizing and understanding unconscious patterns and family legacies can break lineage and create positive change.
Developing psychological safety in relationships requires self-acceptance, vulnerability, and practicing being present.
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Resilience and Equanimity in Personal Growth
Resilience is important, but the ultimate goal is equanimity - the ability to learn from mistakes without damaging self-worth. Jerry Colona discusses the importance of disconnecting success from self-worth and using positive experiences to learn and grow.
Unpacking Unconscious Patterns and Breaking Lineages
Unconscious patterns and family legacies can shape our sense of self and behavior. Colona emphasizes the need to recognize and understand these patterns in order to break lineage and create positive change. This involves conscious self-reflection and curiosity about our own motivators.
Creating Psychological Safety in Relationships
Developing psychological safety in relationships requires self-acceptance and vulnerability. Colona suggests practicing the skill of being present, nurturing conscious adulthood, and sharing the stories we tell ourselves with our partners to promote open communication and understanding.
The power of acknowledging chips on your shoulder
Acknowledging and addressing the chips on one's shoulder can either lead to success or perpetuate victimhood. The fear of being seen as a victim can deter people from acknowledging their chips. However, embracing the positive aspects of these chips, as well as understanding that one has enough, can lead to resilience and a sense of fulfillment.
The struggle of feeling 'not enough' in a society of comparison
In a society driven by social media and constant comparison, many people struggle with feelings of not having enough. This constant comparison can distort self-worth and lead to a never-ending pursuit for more. However, recognizing the fallacy of this mindset and embracing the idea of being enough can provide a foundation for personal growth, innovation, and a sense of purpose.
Jerry Colonna was a high-flying New York venture capitalist in the early 1990s, but his life wasn’t as glamorous as most made it out to be. He was anxious, overweight, unhealthy, and unfulfilled, and after suffering a panic attack on the streets of Manhattan he gradually shifted into coaching, giving him a new lease on life and a career as one of the premier executive coaches in the United States.
In this episode, Colonna opens up on what went wrong and how he changed it. Offering raw and revealing insights on resilience, discernment, self-esteem, anxiety, motivation, and the rituals that keep him fulfilled in life.
Colonna is the Co-Founder of Reboot.io, an executive coaching and leadership development firm dedicated to the notion that better humans make better leaders. He is also the author of Reunion: Leadership and the Longing to Belong.
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