Raising Boys & Girls Episode 317: Understanding the Helper and Enneagram 2's - David and Sissy
Oct 16, 2025
This discussion highlights the warmth and nurturing nature of Enneagram Twos, the Helpers. They possess an instinctive ability to sense others' needs but often neglect their own. The hosts explore the emotional strengths and challenges Twos face, including the danger of resentment and the desire for validation. Practical advice is shared on setting boundaries and fostering independence in children. With humor, they liken Twos to golden retrievers—dedicated and loving—reminding them of their inherent worth beyond their helpfulness.
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Borrow From Four To Look Inward
- Grow by borrowing healthy traits from other Enneagram numbers: move toward four to look inward.
- Use creativity, journaling, or solitude to cultivate self-awareness rather than only serving others.
Use Eight's Strength For Boundaries
- Borrow from the healthy side of eight to set firm boundaries and pay attention to what is yours to do.
- Practice saying no and protecting your time to prevent depletion and manipulation.
Ask What Is Yours To Do
- Ask yourself the mantra, "What is mine to do?" before taking on others' needs.
- Seek honest feedback from trusted friends to avoid spiraling in unproductive thinking.
