Overcoming the Unspoken: Sexual Assault, COVID Grief, Bullying, and Suicidal Thoughts
Aug 22, 2024
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Kati Morton, a licensed therapist specializing in mental health and trauma, shares her insights on sensitive topics that affect so many. She explains the barriers that prevent individuals from discussing sexual assault with their therapists, emphasizing feelings of shame and the struggle for validation. Kati also addresses the mental health toll of COVID-19, the complexities of grief, and strategies to rebuild social connections. She highlights how EMDR therapy can aid in processing trauma, offering hope to those dealing with bullying and suicidal thoughts.
Discussing sexual assault in therapy can be profoundly challenging due to emotional triggers and the need for a safe space to process trauma.
Post-COVID, maintaining good mental health requires active social engagement and acknowledgment of the emotional struggles caused by isolation.
Deep dives
Challenges in Discussing Trauma
Many individuals find it difficult to talk openly with their therapist about experiences such as sexual assault due to feelings of shame, guilt, and embarrassment. The act of even mentioning the trauma can trigger a stress response, leading to paralysis and an inability to articulate thoughts during therapy sessions. It is emphasized that time alone does not heal these wounds; true healing requires active processing of the experiences with the help of a therapist. Understanding the emotional safety needed in therapy is crucial for individuals to start discussing their traumatic events when they feel ready.
Post-COVID Mental Health Struggles
The podcast addresses the heightened difficulty in maintaining mental health in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, highlighting the trauma many experienced during this time. Social isolation has weakened the ability to engage socially, leading to increased anxiety and difficulty connecting with others. It encourages individuals to gradually re-engage with their social circles, akin to rebuilding a muscle that has atrophied, emphasizing the importance of consistency in social interactions. Recognizing and validating the challenges faced during and after the pandemic can foster a supportive environment for healing.
Navigating Perpetual Grief
Perpetual grief is examined as a state often intertwined with depression, where individuals struggle to experience joy due to the weight of unprocessed feelings and regrets over lost opportunities. Acknowledging the difference between grief and depression is vital, as unchecked grief can evolve into more severe emotional issues. The conversation introduces coping strategies, such as seeking sunlight, staying active, and engaging in activities that once brought joy, to break the cycle of grief and foster a sense of peace. Emphasizing the need for professional help, particularly therapy, can provide an essential outlet for those feeling overwhelmed.
Coping with Bullying and Seeking Help
The impact of bullying on mental health is explored, underscoring the importance of speaking out about experiences instead of suffering in silence. It discusses the necessity of reaching out to trusted adults or school officials to address bullying situations effectively, while also emphasizing the importance of documenting incidents for evidence. Personal affirmations and journaling are recommended as tools for building self-worth and processing emotions associated with bullying. Encouragement to seek therapy or counseling can provide crucial support in overcoming the trauma of bullying and foster resilience.
This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about why it can be hard to tell our therapist about a sexual assault, and why the R-word can be so difficult to talk about. She then discusses why it seems to be harder to maintain our mental health post-COVID, how to work through perpetual grief, and how to overcome intense bullying. Finally, she explains how EMDR works, and why we can hold onto our suicidal thoughts and plans. Audience questions from Ask Kati Anything, your mental health podcast episode 230:1. I was wondering why I can’t seem to talk to my therapist about being raped?? Backstory: I was raped twice by a family friend and both times were more than 10+ years ago so I should just be over it by now. I’ve been seeing a therapist for over a year now. I really do like her and I feel comfortable and really connected to her. I can count on one hand the few people who know about both assaults, but I’ve never been able to share with anyone intimate details of it besides the few details that my therapist knows about. However, every time the conversation...2. Is it just me, or is it so much harder to maintain good mental health as compared to pre-COVID times. So much changed during that time and so many of us lost important social connections. I hope this doesn’t sound lame, but… what is your advice for starting over?3. How do we work through perpetual grief? I feel a lot of grief over things that I didn't get to do or experience due to mental health issues over the years. Recognizing that I can't turn back time, and some of the things I missed I will never be able to do or that it will not be the same experience had it happened at the appropriate time. This caused me to have even more grief as I'm going through life knowing I'm not...4. I don’t have any hopes in life because I keep getting bullied and bullied and bullied ever since I was 10 and now I’m 13 I’m in seventh grade now and I’m scared to actually go to school because I keep getting bullied. I don’t tell my parents...5. Can you possibly explain the science behind EMDR in human terms? ;). It is completely fascinating to me how it works, because it does! My mind has started one place and ended up where I never would have expected to. I have had flashes of odd images come into my mind as well that I haven’t mentioned because they are just weird or embarrassing. 6. Even when I was doing a little bit better and wasn’t having too many suicidal thoughts, I’ve always had a plan in place in my head. This seems really messed up to me and now this method isn’t possible to me it feels stressful; like I need an answer again. I don’t understand why it feels necessary to have a definite answer to this again. Or why it was a constant presence in the first place. I’ve had rather complicated mental health issues for years and had lots of treatments and felt pretty hopeless for a long time. I’m guessing this has something to do with it but it just doesn’t sit right with me that it always feels needed in the background.
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