Ask Kati Anything

Is talking about your emotions actually hurting your healing? Licensed therapist Kati Morton dives deep into the non-linear reality of healing, tackling feelings of meaninglessness, navigating forced therapy, and how to recover from therapist abandonment. Discover the key difference between therapeutic processing and harmful rumination, learn what narcissistic abuse looks like, and find out how to get unstuck from survival mode and self-sabotage. Audience Questions: 0:43 - Q1: When Does Talking About Emotions Become Negative? ("...at what point does talking about your motion emotions have a negative effect?" / "...I would rather skip the talking and go straight to the homework...") 8:59 - Q2: Dealing with the Feeling of Meaninglessness ("How do I deal with the feeling of meaninglessness? I'm a successful girl by society standards... But I don't feel any excitement about anything...") ** Shopping with our sponsors helps support the show and allows us to continue bringing you these important conversations about mental health. Please check out this week's special offer: Get 15% off Branch Basics with the code KATI at https://branchbasics.com/KATI 13:49 - Q3: How to Recover from Feeling Abandoned by Your Therapist ("How do I get over feeling worthless even when not even my therapist seems to care.") 19:39 - Q4: The Effects of Toxic Narcissistic Abuse on Healing ("It feels like I'm stuck in a loop. Like I keep sabotaging myself." / "My life revolved around her. She'd get mad if I didn't go out with her...") 26:22 - Q5: Stuck in Survival Mode After Leaving an Abusive Home ("...moving away from home to college because of my abusive parents... I thought moving away would get me out of survival mode, it didn't.") 31:09 - Q6: How to Fix Life Once You Figure Out "The Why" ("...after one figures out why life has turned out the way it did, how does one quote unquote fix that?") 37:57 - Q7: Working on Being Less Hard on Yourself ("I'm very hard on myself and have two higher expectations... Do you have any other methods that can help me work on being less hard on myself?") My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Ask Kati Anything ep. 286 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's questions are very interesting! Everything from breaking the habit of nail biting and skin picking, to navigating comparison, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome. We’ll also talk about menopause, how it can affect mood, depression, and even how ADHD medications work plus what happens when your diagnosis suddenly changes and you’re left wondering who to believe. And finally, we’ll explore what it’s like to be diagnosed with ADHD later in life, after years of being told it was something else entirely. So whether you’re here to better understand your own mental health, or you just love learning more about how our brains and emotions work, this episode is full of real questions, honest conversations, and practical takeaways you can actually use. My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Audience questions: (01:03) How do I stop biting my nails? (Compulsion to pick at skin/nails) (09:54) I keep comparing myself to other people, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome. (20:01) Thoughts about menopause and how it affects depression. (25:21) Is it true that menopause hinders ADHD meds from working? (30:26) What are some things I can do to improve my communication skills with my partner? (41:00) Identity shift with a change in diagnosis (ADHD/ASD vs. OCPD) and who to believe. (51:43) Women being diagnosed with ADHD later in life (55+) and misdiagnosis with bipolar disorder. Sponsors: I want to take a moment to give a kind word of thanks to the companies that support this podcast. Shopping with our sponsors helps support the show and allows us to continue bringing you these important conversations about mental health. Please check out this week's partners and their special offers: • Headspace: Get 60 days FREE www.Headspace.com/AskKati • Fabletics: 80% off everything for new VIP members www.Fabletics.com/Kati • Crowd Health: Get your first three months for just $99 www.JoinCrowdHealth.com | use code ASKKATI • One Skin: 15% off www.OneSkin.co | use code KATI Ask Kati Anything ep. 285 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT My original YouTube Channel www.youtube.com/@Katimorton #podcast #therapist #katimorton MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, Kati sits down with neuroscientist Dr. Ben Rein, to dive into the social connection and the growing loneliness epidemic. Dr. Rein, author of Why Brains Need Friends, explains how your brain is fundamentally wired for interaction, why isolation is a biological stressor, and what you can do to improve your social health. In this must-watch episode, Dr. Rein explains the mechanical changes happening in your brain during isolation and clarifies why the U.S. Surgeon General has declared a loneliness epidemic. You'll learn the surprising truth about isolation and physical health—it can cause stress hormones like cortisol to rise within days and is associated with more adverse health outcomes. Dr. Rein also reveals the science behind why isolation can make people more irritable and even angry, linking it to the body's natural stress response. Kati and Dr. Rein discuss the difference between in-person and digital interactions, noting that less "lifelike" communication strips away vital social cues like eye contact, body language, and even smell, leading to fewer mood benefits. Dr. Rein introduces the concept of a "Social Diet" and social journaling—practical tools to help you identify which interactions energize you ("breath in" relationships) versus those that leave you depleted. The conversation takes fascinating turns into the role of brain chemicals like oxytocin and serotonin in social reward and the development of empathy. Plus, discover the incredible, innate ability of dogs to detect physiological stress signals and the science of how pets help children develop crucial social skills. By shopping with our sponsors, you help support our podcast: Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/50ASKKATI HeadSpace https://www.headspace.com/ASKKATI Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction to Dr. Ben Rein, neuroscientist and author of Why Brains Need Friends. 02:54 - The neuroscience behind loneliness-induced anger and why isolation is treated as a stressor by the body. 05:57 - Debunking the myth: Do introverts benefit from social interaction, and in what dose? 10:48 - The evolutionary reason we are wired for social reward, and the key brain chemicals involved: dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. 15:40 - A discussion on MDMA, serotonin depletion, and the severity of the drug's comedown. 21:11 - The shocking statistics on increasing time spent alone in modern society (36 hours more per month). 28:22 - What is "inter brain synchrony," and can it happen over a text message?. 35:47 - The power of social smells: how tears can reduce aggression and how a mother's scent affects a baby's brain synchrony. 41:51 - Why growing up with dogs helps children develop empathy and fewer conduct problems. 48:53 - The powerful therapeutic properties of oxytocin (anti-inflammatory, neuroprotective) beyond just social connection. Ask Kati Anything ep. 284 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Today's guest is Dr. Ben Rein https://www.youtube.com/@dr.benrein Order Ben's new book Why Brains Need Friends → https://geni.us/WhyBrainsNeedFriends My new book Why Do I Keep Doing This? is available for pre-order! https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you struggling to support a friend's mental health crisis while battling your own? This essential episode of Ask Kati Anything dives deep into setting healthy boundaries in tough friendships, tackling the crucial question of how to protect your peace without guilt. We also explore the often-misunderstood journey of relapse and recovery, the profound search for meaning when life feels empty due to depression, and offer vital insights into eating disorders at different life stages, from early struggles to fears about pregnancy and being a role model. Plus, discover whether day-to-day anxiety truly serves a purpose, how to navigate a forgetful therapist, and the emotional impact of chronic illness and bullying. My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Episode Timestamps: 00:44 - q1  What to do when supporting a struggling friend begins to trigger your own pain. 08:31 - q2  Could you talk about best practices for staying out of the hospital and about the stigma around relapse and recovery? 17:00 - q3  How can any meaning in life be found when it takes action to find meaning? 21:59 - q4  I'm almost 28 years old and have been struggling with anorexia for six years and eating disorder behaviors for more than half my life. 29:26 - q5  I was wondering if I have an eating disorder. 33:51 - q6  Does day-to-day anxiety actually serve a purpose like other emotions? 38:16 - q7  Can you please talk about therapy and how to handle a forgetful therapist? 42:47 - q8  Could you cover the correlation of chronic illnesses or chronic pain like a leg disability... and mental health issues? Ask Kati Anything ep. 283 |  your weekly mental health podcast hosted by licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, where she answers your most pressing mental health questions with compassion, expertise, and actionable advice. Support Our Show by Checking Out Our Sponsors We're able to bring you these important conversations thanks to the support of our incredible sponsors. Please take a moment to visit them and learn more about what they offer! BetterHelp - Our listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/katipod October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and BetterHelp is celebrating the therapists who make healing possible. If you're ready to find the right therapist for you, BetterHelp can help you start that journey. Blissy - as a listener, receive your 60 nights risk-free plus an additional 30% off when you shop at https://blissy.com/askkatipod and use code askkatipod MY BOOKS Traumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j   Are u ok?    https://geni.us/sva4iUY  PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman |  nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Explore the journey of trauma recovery and emotional processing. Discover effective grounding techniques to break free from a state of functional freeze. Learn about the necessary structure in therapy sessions and the beginning dynamics of eating disorder recovery. Understand the emotional impact of failed suicide attempts and gain insights into distinguishing real versus false memories. Uncover why trauma may lead us to push away loved ones and practical advice to reconnect.

Dr. Judith Joseph, a psychiatrist, researcher, and author of 'High Functioning,' sheds light on high-functioning depression, highlighting its silent struggles. She discusses the flawed medical approach that waits for crisis before diagnosis and emphasizes the importance of a preventative mindset. Dr. Joseph explores the connection between trauma, constant busyness, and the pursuit of joy versus transient happiness. She offers practical tools to reclaim joy and encourages celebrating small moments while recognizing the impact of social validation.

Thank you to today's sponsor Vegamour! Go to vegamour.com/kati code KATI for 20% off your first order! Join Kati Morton as she sits down with Ryland Adams from the Sip podcast to discuss his unconventional journey, navigating the world of YouTube, and the realities of online fame.Ryland opens up about his early days, from finding a roommate on Craigslist to pursuing an acting career in Hollywood, and how he eventually found his place on YouTube. He shares insights into the hustle, the burnout, and the importance of staying real while building a career online. Ryland also discusses his relationship with Shane Dawson, including how they met, collaborated, and navigated the challenges of online life together.The conversation dives into the challenges of dealing with criticism, maintaining mental health in the digital age, and finding balance as a content creator. Ryland also shares his experiences with marriage and parenthood.This episode is a must-watch for anyone interested in YouTube, online culture, and personal stories of growth and resilience.Ask Kati Anything ep. 258 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFThttps://www.youtube.com/@UCVe_RrR9AMeY6Z8ixOv5gtw https://www.youtube.com/@thesipwithrylandadamsandli5476https://www.youtube.com/@Katimorton #podcast #rylandadams #katimortonMY BOOKSTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY CHANNEL MEMBERSHIPhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month)While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPSNick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kati Morton, LMFT sits down with Jordan Leigh—mental health advocate, entrepreneur, and fiancée of Montreal Canadiens NHL star Patrik Laine—for a candid look behind the scenes of professional sports and personal struggle. Jordan shares the unseen emotional weight of loving someone in the public eye: the fear of injury, the pressure to stay strong, and the mental health impact of being the steady one when your partner can't be. They also talk about her non-profit From Us to You, the mental toll of unpredictability, and how real support goes beyond just “being there.” EPISODE SPONSOR Thank you to today's sponsor Vegamour! Go to https://www.vegamour.com/kati code KATI for 20% off your first order! Whether you're an athlete’s partner, a high achiever carrying too much, or just someone looking for a truly honest conversation about love and mental health—this one’s for you. Ask Kati Anything ep. 260 with Jordan Leigh | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ 🧠 Learn more about From Us to You: https://fromustoyou.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@UC1LJUpc-SRnWFHqQbioMRyQ https://www.instagram.com/lifebyjordanleigh/ Kati's Main Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shane Dawson and Ryland Adams join licensed therapist Kati Morton for an unfiltered and heartfelt deep dive into their relationship. From their awkward first date and sleep divorce setup to parenting twins and surviving cancel culture, nothing is off-limits in this revealing episode of Ask Kati Anything. EPISODE SPONSOR BABBEL - Get up to 55% off at https://www.Babbel.com/KATI We talk about love languages, fights, co-parenting, therapy breakthroughs, and how their relationship evolved from their first date to building a family. Shane opens up about his mental health, creative rebirth, and fatherhood, while Ryland shares how communication, trust, and humor keep their bond strong. Whether you're in a relationship, navigating parenthood, or just here for the stories—this episode delivers plenty of “OMG did he really just say that?” moments. *** PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK *** Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ 📺 Watch more episodes: Ryland Adams: My Biggest YouTube Regrets https://youtu.be/JZrNvO64yYw Shane Dawson: YouTube, Cancellation & Fatherhood https://youtu.be/f_dbaCD9ouA Follow Shane & Ryland: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hQ8DpeKzZE https://www.youtube.com/@shanehttps://www.youtube.com/@Shane2/videos Kati's Main Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Katimorton ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co #podcast #rylandadams #shanedawson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed therapist and YouTube mental health advocate Kati Morton answers vulnerable audience questions about living without hope, healing from lifelong trauma, and navigating emotional burnout. We explore how to break free from chronic emotional numbness, cope with retraumatization in unsafe environments, and rebuild a sense of purpose when life feels stagnant or meaningless. Kati offers expert insight on topics like maladaptive coping strategies, therapy attachment wounds, and the overwhelming grief that comes from invisible disabilities and complex PTSD. Episode Sponsor: Liquid I.V. - Use the promo code KATI For 20% OFF! https://www.liquid-iv.com Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 268 1. I'd like to hear what you have to say about living without hope. My therapist and I have been... 00:01:18 2. Hey Kati, I’m a 25F with ASD. I have been abused by over 50 people (after reaching 50 I stopped counting) in almost every way imaginable, even by people who were supposed to love and/or protect me, even by therapists and teachers, from when I was 4 years old until recently. I don’t even really know what the word “safe” means. I have helped or held space for many people dealing with pain and grief, but I never learned how to receive help for myself. I was shamed and physically punished by my parents for even the smallest acts of self-care, self-soothing or my ASD symptoms themselves... 00:09:27 3. How do I get past the fact that therapy itself requires an imbalance of intimacy and sharing and just overall is not an organic give and take relationship? 00:18:07 4. How to stop obsessing over the world we live in….and how scary it’s becoming for our children. 00:25:12 5. I feel like I have nothing exciting to look forward to. This has been ongoing for years. 00:29:38 6. How can you cope with re traumatisation when you can't get out of the situation? 00:33:49 7. Is it possible for untreated mental illness to be traumatizing? I think I had a period of depression for a few months when I was 12-13ish, but I never told anyone and would always say I was fine when asked. I was functional enough to shower, eat, do school... 00:33:49 My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices